Showing posts with label Shabbat Zachor. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Shabbat Zachor. Show all posts

Friday, March 22, 2024

TBE Bar/Bat Mitzvah Commentary, Video and Screen Shots: Joshua Friedman on Shabbat Zachor



Shabbat Shalom!


Today is a special Shabbat called Shabbat Zachor.  It means the Sabbath of Remembrance. So what are supposed to remember?  We are supposed to remember what the evil nation of Amalek did to the Jewish people after they escaped many years of slavery in Egypt.  The Jewish people finally escaped Egypt after being slaves to Pharaoh for many years.  They were walking through the desert, hungry, thirsty, hot, and tired, and suddenly, this group of bullies called Amalekites attacked them, especially those people who were in the back and were tired and weak.  Why did they attack them?  We don’t know - maybe it’s out of fear or jealousy or maybe they were just scared of the Jewish people because they were different. After this attack, God says that we should always remember what Amalek did and “blot out Amalek’s name”. It's a way of saying that there are consequences for being mean and attacking others, and sometimes you have to take strong action to make sure it doesn't happen again. However, is violence always the best solution?  Aren’t there other ways to work things out? 

 

The story of Amalek reminds me of the theme of fighting against really bad leaders who hurt others for their own power.  Evil leaders like Hamas who attacked Israel on October 7, 2023.  Hamas is a terrorist organization and they killed at least 1,200 men, women, children, and infants in one single day.  It was the largest and most brutal massacre of Jews since the Holocaust. I remember hearing this news and couldn’t believe it.  I was just in Israel a few months earlier for the first time with my family and got to meet my cousins who live in Israel. I was so worried Hamas would hurt them because they were attacking so many innocent families in such an evil way.  Like the nation of Amalek, Hamas believes that the Jewish people should be destroyed and will not stop until that happens.  Hearing this makes me feel scared.  How could this be happening today? Could this happen to me?  There are not many Jewish people in my school and I remember wearing my “Stand for Israel” sweatshirt the day after I went to the Washington DC rally feeling very proud.  Another boy pointed it out and made a rude comment and I could respond one of two ways “fight back” or “ask them why they said what they said”.  I chose the latter and it threw him off that I was calm and wanted to have a conversation about it.  They didn’t have a response.  It made me realize that sometimes people have no reason for being mad or not liking someone and instead of figuring it out, they take the easy path by being angry.

There are so many sides to what is happening in Israel and it is very confusing to me that people could hate the Jewish people so much that they celebrated when they hurt or killed innocent people in such violent ways, even children who are my age or younger.   But then I think about the Palestinians who have to live with Hamas as their leader and what’s happening to the Palestinians.  It also isn’t fair since they are caught in the middle and are now dying from starvation and the war.  So in this situation, are we supposed to wipe out the memory of Hamas, similar to wiping out the memory of Amalek, by wiping out all who support Hamas?  Many people think that Israel is trying to do that.  They think that Israel wants to kill an entire population of people and they are being blamed for defending themselves.  Israel is often seen as the “evil one”. 

In my opinion, Israelis should have the right to defend themselves and rescue the people who were taken hostage.  They should have the right to stand up against an organization that is filled with so much evil against the Jewish people but at the same, I just wish the solution wasn’t war.  But Israel is left with not many choices since Hamas won’t agree to the cease-fire.  And so it gets very tricky. 

Nothing good comes from fighting.  It causes so much unnecessary stress.  Disagreements with friends and even with our own family happen all of the time but holding grudges never solves any problems.  If there is someone you have been upset with then talk it out. Just remember that we can’t change the past.  We can only move forward.  Give people the benefit of the doubt, have empathy, and listen so we can spend more time spreading kindness and less time waking up being mad.  Do things you can control like doing good in this world, which could be our way of destroying the idea of Amalek. 

And that brings me to my Mitzvah Project, Lasagna Love, which is all about spreading kindness, one lasagna at a time.  Lasagna Love’s mission is to do small acts of kindness that can make a big difference in someone’s life.  For people who might have lost a loved one, who just came out of the hospital, or are having trouble making ends meet, they can request a lasagna. No questions asked!  So every week or so, we are matched with a family in the area who just needs a delicious home-cooked meal.  This little act of kindness can make a big difference. We have helped families where the mom has MS and just wants a break from cooking for her kids, another person who just got out of the hospital and lives by herself so having a home-cooked meal brought a smile to her face, and another family who just immigrated to the United States and never had lasagna before so they wanted to see what all the hype was about!  Families are so grateful for the support and I love being able to help my neighbors that I didn’t even know before!  By the way, Lasagna Love is a national organization so even if you don’t live in Connecticut,  please check it out for your local community and spread the love of a delicious lasagna for a family in need!














Monday, March 18, 2019

TBE Bar/Bat Mitzvah Commentary: Matthew Goodman on Vayikra / Shabbat Zachor


Shabbat Shalom!

Today has been a great day for me.  But really, it’s been a great year, especially for sports.

-       First, last March, my JCC basketball team won the county championship.
-       Then, in June, my little league team won the Stamford American little league championship and I pitched a complete game for my team.
-       Then, in the fall, my house soccer team won the soccer finals for the fourth time!
-       And, oh yes, I’m a big Red Sox and Patriots fan, and we know what happened there. A World Series and Super Bowl in the same season.

Yeah, yeah…I see your eyes roll!

I have to say, I am one lucky kid.

But with my teams winning, there are a couple of lessons that I have learned.

Lesson number one:  Winning takes a lot of hard work, focus and determination. Always try your hardest. When you are trying to win a championship, you can’t take your foot off the gas, or be satisfied before it is over, and expect to win.  Look at the Patriots. A few years ago, they were losing 28-3 in the Super Bowl. They kept working hard when the other team took their foot off the gas and thought it was over. The Patriots came back and won.

My haftarah continues the story of Amalek that was also the subject of the maftir Torah reading.  Amalek attacked Israel right after they left Egypt.  They did not fight fair – as they attacked them from behind. Israel defeated them in the Wilderness; but in my haftarah, King Saul, who was ordered to destroy them completely, let’s their king, Agag off the hook.  Because of that, the nation of Amalek survived, and their descendant, Haman, nearly destroyed the Jewish people.  The holiday of Purim, which we celebrate this week, tells that part of the story.

A second lesson that I’ve learned about winning is that you need teamwork. The winning teams that I have been on had kids that worked together and didn’t rely on one player to win. Plus, it’s important always to be humble and support each other.

In soccer and basketball, you can’t score without passing.  And in baseball, you’ve got to work together in the field to get the out and encourage teammates who are up at bat to get a hit.
Eventually, the Jewish people came together through teamwork and support for each other and defeated the evil Haman.

For my mitzvah project, I am working with two organizations. First, I am working with an organization called Little Wonder. Little Wonder helps people with cancer enjoy themselves a little bit as they go through treatment. They get tickets to local sporting events, shows, and other entertainment to give to people with cancer. Little Wonder is currently working with 21 hospitals in the state of Connecticut. This Mitzvah project is dedicated to my grandparents Beverly and Fred, who I never met because they both passed away from cancer before I was born. Thanks to you, my family and friends; I was able to achieve my goal of raising 1000 dollars in total (I have actually raised over 2000 dollars so far!).

The second organization I am supporting is called Leveling The Playing Field, which provides sports equipment to children who wouldn’t otherwise have the right equipment to play. Most of you know that I love sports and I am lucky to have the equipment that I need to play. Others are not as lucky as I am. So I am collecting sports equipment to donate to them. In this way, I’m playing a small part in doing what real winners have to do – which is to help others to become winners too.

Please consider donating if you haven’t already and thank you to those who have already donated.

Friday, March 15, 2019

Shabbat-O-Gram for March 15 - Beyond Articulation

Shabbat-O-Gram

...join us for a wine-and-cheese launching on March 28 at 7:30!


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The Shabbat-O-Gram sponsored by 
Beth and Jeff Goodman in honor of their son, 
Matthew, becoming a Bar Mitzvah


Shabbat Shalom!

Shabbat shalom!

Mazal tov to Matt Goodman and family as he becomes bar mitzvah this Shabbat morning.  Join us then, and tonight for Kabbalat Shabbat at 7:30.  Tomorrow we also have another Shabbabimbam for young children. Last week's Bar Mitzvah speech by Zachary Price can be found here.  The Times of Israel featured my commentary found in last week's O-Gram.  You can read "Dual Loyalty - Dual Love" here.

Beyond Articulation - and Some Hope

This week we read the first portion of Leviticus, which includes descriptions of the ancient sacrificial cult.  In Leviticus 1:9 we encounter a term for the first time, one that seems inocuous here 

ט וְהִקְטִיר הַכֹּהֵן אֶת-הַכֹּל הַמִּזְבֵּחָה, עֹלָה אִשֵּׁה רֵיחַ-נִיחוֹחַ לַיהוָה.  {ס}1:9 and the priest shall make the whole smoke on the altar, for a burnt-offering, an offering made by fire, of a sweet savour unto the LORD. 
The offering made by fire was entirely consumed on the altar.  The devastation was complete.  Nothing remained for the priests to eat. The word for "consumed by flame" - Isheh - is a derivative of the word esh which means fire.  A later derivative of this root word is Shoah - so it is from this utter devastation at the altar that we first glimpse the word that would come to be associated with the Holocaust.  In fact, some translations, especially those written before World War Two, call this sacrifice, in English, the Holocaust offering.

Looking at an etymological dictionary, you find several shadings of meaning for this root word, including "lays waste," and "ruins."  But additionally you find words like "wonder, "astonished" and "amazed," 

The Hebrew word "Mishta'eah," another derivation of Shoah, is especially apropos today.  It means "to be rendered empty of thought."  The Holocaust remains, even 75 years later, not merely beyond explanation, but beyond thought, beyond articulation.  Words can't come close to expressing the horror.

That's how we feel today after the murderous rampage at mosques in New Zealand.  Reading the first reports of the hate-filled ideology of the perpetrators, I am reminded that this is Shabbat Zachor, the Sabbath of Remembrance, when we read the instruction to remember the evil perpetrated by Amalek in the Wilderness.  There's a lot of evil to recall at this time of year, and it's a reminder that today is far from the first time Muslims have been murdered in their place of prayer.  29 were killed in Hebron by Baruch Goldstein in 1994.  Goldstein was driven to his hateful deed after misreading the book of Esther on Purim, failing to understand that the mitzvah to destroy Amalek is not calling on us to kill people, but to kill off hatred itself, the Amalek within.  

We have a long way to go.

But meanwhile, this horrible tragedy leaves us all "beyond articulation."

Now for a hopeful sign:

With today's news it becomes even more important for us to stand up against hate no matter where it is found.  This week, the Stamford Board of Reps provided a refreshing bipartisan break from the typical political rancor, by joining in an overwhelming censure of one of their members who had spread vile messages against Muslims and others in social media postings.  I attended the meeting and was moved at the presentations made.  Very little grandstanding, even though cameras were present.  Some of the speeches were very very personal, detailing heartbreaking experiences of prejudice.  As I sat next to my Muslim imam friend, I reflected that this us just another example of why Stamford is a fabulous place to live.  See the coverage of the meeting on WABC.   

PURIM!!!

Purim falls this coming Wednesday evening.  Join us at 5:30 for the Family Megilla Reading followed by the always-great carnival, and Purim for Adults, with a full Megilla reading at 8:00. 

Here is some Purim info from MyJewishLearning.com



Beyond Articulation #2

Last weekend, I sent out one of the saddest e-mails I've ever had to deliver, the news of the tragic death of Mike Sverdlove, beloved grandson of TBE's Andrew Sverdlove.  You can read some of the coverage in the Israeli press.  Andrew spoke so proudly of Mike's love of Israel at services.  Mike's father posted on Facebook a moving account of what transpired. "Moving" doesn't quite describe it.  This is what "Beyond Articulation" would look like if it could be articulated.  It's a glimpse right into the thundering Isheh offering - and to the core of an aching father's soul.  Our deepest sympathies to Andrew and family.  

Recalling Hanna Senesh's immortal words:

 

Blessed is the match, consumed in kindling flame.
Blessed is the flame that burns in the heart's secret places.
Blessed is the heart that knows, for honors sake, to stop its beating.
Blessed is the match, consumed in kindling flame.

Shabbat Shalom
Rabbi Joshua Hammerman

Friday, February 23, 2018

Shabbat-O-Gram for Feb. 23

The start of today's Tel Aviv Marathon - photo taken by TBE's Pinchas Gross, who writes, 
Despite all (!) that is going on now in Israel and around its borders, 
40,000 runners, and many tens of thousands of spectators 
attended today's marathon. 
A wow for the vibrancy and resilience of the Israeli society!
Purim-O-Gram

Shabbat Shalom and Happy Shabbat Zachor and next Wed. evening, Purim!

Join us for Kabbalat Shabbat at 7:30 tonight and don't forget our monthly Shabbat-in-the-Round tomorrow morning, featuring meditation, chant, conversation...and food - in a very informal setting.  Breakfast and schmooze at 9:30!

Given the sadness that has filled our country since last week's school shooting in  Florida, it is hard to shift our sights to the merriment of Purim.  Fortunately, Purim itself shows us the way.  teaching us how to survive in a dangerous world.   All too often, Jewish communities have faced catastrophe. Occasionally, miraculous interventions have enabled us to avert certain doom. Based on the Talmudic idea of saying blessings at places where narrow escapes have happened, the custom arose for communities to celebrate anniversaries of Purim-like events. These became known as "Special Purims."

Pardon the Purim pun, but there are lots of them.

The list below, which is just a partial list, comes from the Jewish Encyclopedia. Take your pick.... and as you do, think of all the Purims that could not be celebrated - and the Purims yet-to-come. Destiny seems to ride on the luck of the draw, for Jews and others.  Where will the next school shooting occur?  What will happen next in Syria?  Will the next big political indictment come in Washington or Jerusalem?  What will that mean for our future?  We just keep on drawing those lots.  Check out a few of these Special Purims.

Purim of Abraham Danzig (called also Pulverpurim="Powder Purim"): 
Purim of Ancona: 
Purim of Angora: 
Purim Borghel: 
Purim di Buda. 
Purim of Cairo: 
Purim of Candia: 
Purim of Chios (called also Purim de la Señora = "of the Good Lady"): 
Purim de los Christianos (called also Purim de las Bombas): 
Purim Edom (called also Purim al-Naāra): 
Purim of Florence: 
Purim di Fuoco. 
Purim Fürhang (Curtain Purim): 
Purim of Gumeldjina (popularly called Purim de los Ladrones = "Purim of Bandits"): 
Purim of Jonathan b. Jacob of Fulda: 
Purim of Lepanto: 
Purim of Narbonne: 
Purim of Padua: 
Purim Povidl (Plum-Jam Purim): 
Purim of Rhodes: 
Purim of Saragossa: 
Purim Sherif: 
Purim of Shiraz (called also Purim of Mo'ed Ḳaṭan): 
Purim of Tammuz at Algiers: 
Purim of Tiberias: 
Purim of Tripoli: 
Purim of Widdin: 
Purim Winz (called also Purim Frankfurt): 
Purim of Yom-Ṭob Lipmann Heller:
Purim is coming on Wednesday evening.  Join us for our family Megilla reading - Karaoke-style, following by our world-famous carnival.  (OK, maybe not world famous) Thank you to everyone signed up to help with the carnival (and teens, we definitely could use some more help!), along with Talia Raich, who will be reading Megilla for us at our 5:30 family service and the 8 PM Purim-for-Adults up in the chapel. 

And come in costume!  

Here are some of the costumes I've worn over the years... Which one is your favorite?  I couldn't find photos of some of them, like my pig outfit (Rabbi Ham) or the time I came as Barney the Dinosaur.

   
  
  
      

 


See why 
we dress up in the video below

Why do Jews Wear Masks on Purim?
Why do Jews Wear Masks on Purim?


With the Oscars AND Purim coming next week, here are my 5778...

Best Picture nominees

"Call Me by Your Name" - Uncle Louie comes up for an aliyah and forgets how to say "Louie" in Hebrew.

"Darkest Hour" - Looking for three stars for Havdalah, but OMG, it's cloudy!

"Dunk-Irk" - Sarah tries her patented cannonball dive into the mikva, but Sally, who's immersing, is rather pissed about it.

"Get Out" - Jerry declares that he is gay at the very moment his Jewish divorce becomes final.

"Lady Brr-ed" - Esther shivers while waiting for Mordechai to get the car.

"Phantom Thread" - A mysterious purple strand emerges in Yossi's tzitzis.

"The Post" - Thousands of new menorah-shaped wrought iron lamp posts cause acute bulb shortage

"The Shape of Water" - Intermarriage with sea monster OK'ed by Chief Rabbinate, since Fishy is never not immersing; until sadistic government operative attempts the first-ever aquatic circumcision and things get messy.

"Three (OK, Four) (Jewish) Billboards (Way) Outside Ebbing, Missouri" - There were many nominees, but here are four that can spark some Purim conversation.


1960s ad campaign
 
from the New Yorker, October 1938

 
New York, 1950s


Which billboard do you like best?

And the winner for the worst anti-Semitic billboard of the year?  Hands down, it's what our group saw in Hungary, where the authoritarian government used George Soros as a scapegoat - as antidemocratic governments tend to do these days.

 

Also for Purim:

See MyJewishlearning's Purim archives, where you can discover which kind of hamantaschen you are: apricot, poppy or prune, and learn why Esther was a vegetarian.

Also see the exciting archaeological news, announced this week, of the possible discovery of Isaiah's signature in this clay seal:

 

SHABBAT ACROSS STAMFORD on March 9

I hope you can join me and our fellow congregants in two weeks at Shabbat Across Stamford, New Canaan and Darien, United Jewish Federation's annual celebration of community and Shabbat featuring guest speaker Professor Jonathan Sarna. You can easily register at www.ujf.org/Shabbat or by contacting Lauren Steinberg at lauren@ujf.org or 203-321-1373 ext. 108. Early bird pricing ends tomorrow! We are proud to be partnering with UJF in creating this community-wide event and look forward to coming together for a memorable and enjoyable evening.


Time's a Fleetin'...
Reserve NOW for these Pesach events!

FOR MORE INFO AND TO REGISTER, SEE OUR TBE WEBSITE

-          Women's Seder, Tuesday, March 13
-          Interfaith Seder at Grace Farms, Thursday, March 22
-          Chocolate Seder and Family Shabbat Dinner, Friday, March 23
-          Congregational Second Seder, Saturday, March 31



Have a joyous Purim!  and BE HAPPY, IT'S ADAR!