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Thursday, December 23, 2021

In This Moment: Dec 23: Reasons to be Hopeful. Really. Moses, Jesus, and Frodo; Handeling the Messiah; Shabbatica Exotica

 


In This Moment
A special thank you to all who are helping in our annual Christmas Eve assistance at local homeless shelters. Above, a screen shot from the Homeless Persons Memorial Interfaith program, which we hosted on Tuesday. See the video on our website. And while you are on our archived livestream page, you can watch last Friday night's service, which included a stirring presentation by a young Palestinian student who is working with Jerusalem PeaceBuilders. You can also click here for an audio recording of the service. Listen for the story of how he baked hallah for his family in Gaza!


Shabbat Shalom!
For the next two weeks, Friday evening services will be on Zoom only. Find the link in our Shabbat Announcements. Rather than wallowing in our current Omicron spike or the fact that all the kosher Chinese restaurants are closed for the Sabbath, we're going to make this a Shabbatica Exotica! Let's see who can sign in from the most exotic location! If it's a real place, station your laptop near a window so we can see (not that we wouldn't believe you)! Or you could bring us on a Zoom journey with an exotic virtual background. Either way, we all could use an escape. Dress is casual, and ugly sweaters are welcome. Click here to see an album of the remote virtual locations I've Zoomed from over the past two years, Oh, the places we've (not) been!

Still, reality bites, and I've been informed just this morning that due to the spread of the Omicron variant, community clergy will no longer be able to visit congregants at Stamford Hospital until this surge is under control. If you would like one of the chaplains to visit, please contact the main hospital phone number at 203-276-1000 and ask to speak to the on call chaplain.  Please also contact me at rabbi@tbe.org so that I might call patients and include them in our daily healing prayers. No one should be going through illness alone.

Moses, Jesus...and Frodo

This week presents an interesting confluence. We begin the book of Exodus and the story of Moses, arguably Judaism's greatest hero. While often downplayed in our tradition (he's barely mentioned in the Passover Haggadah, for instance), Moses plays a dominant role in the last four books of the Torah, also known as the Five Books of You-Know-Who. Yet precious little is revealed about him. The first two thirds of his life are covered in a single chapter, in this week's portion of Shemot. The midrash fills in the blanks, however, and there's a lot to say about this hero and his journey.
In many ways, Moses's life trajectory matches other epic heroes of ancient and modern lore, like Jesus, another key figure for many this weekend, and, since the Lord of the Rings movie trilogy celebrated its 20th anniversary this week, let's add Frodo to the mix. Oh yes, and Harry Potter is having a 20th anniversary too.

All of them fit neatly into Joseph Campbell's archetypal hero narrative. We'll discuss this with a special focus on Moses on Shabbat morning. Click on the Parsha Packet to the right to check some ancient and modern sources, including Campbell's concepts. And click here to look at a collection of traditional midrashic stories about Moses, reprinted from Louis Ginzberg's classic collection, which now appears in its entirety online, "Legends of the Jews." It's fascinating to see the stories that never made it into the Torah, pages and pages of them. Despite a concerted effort to downplay his role, Moses never ceases to excite the Jewish imagination. Is he our Ulysses? Our Luke Skywalker? Or simply a little unlikely hero from the Shire, seeking his ring?

See below a photo from my 2013 visit to Hobbiton, New Zealand

Hallelujah! A Jewish Guide to the Messiah!
If you find the topic of the messiah and messianism too hot to Handel at this time of year, fear not! Simply download my comprehensive guide to all things Jewishly messianianic. I originally prepared it for a day-long Advent retreat I led for Christian clergy a few years ago, one of the most fascinating experiences in interfaith dialogue that I've ever experienced. And incidentally, aside from his famed "Messiah," Handel also wrote oratorios about Queen EstherDeborah and Judas Maccabeuswhich, as you can see here, is perfect for Jewish choirs and even has its own Hallelujah chorus.

Reasons to Be Hopeful. Really.

Optimism and hope are not the same. Optimism is the belief that the world is changing for the better; hope is the belief that, together, we can make the world better. Optimism is a passive virtue, hope an active one. It needs no courage to be an optimist, but it takes a great deal of courage to hope. The Hebrew Bible is not an optimistic book. It is, however, one of the great literatures of hope.

Omicron threw us all for a loop this week. It become the most dominant variant so speedily, and with so many breakthrough infections, which shut down Broadway shows and SNL in a blink. Everyone had to recalculate vacation plans and testing kits were hard to come by. But by week's end there was reason to believe that this flash fire of a variant might be more of a flash in the pan, if initial indications out of South Africa prove true.

But as if Omicron wasn't enough, there were plenty of other news stories to jar us this past week. The one about the third graders in Washington DC forced to reenact the Holocaust really took the cake for me. The more I read, the more I thought that last week's SNL hadn't been cancelled after all. The story seemed like pure parody - warped parody at that. How is it possible in 2021 for third graders - third graders?? - to be instructed to pretend they are on a train to a death camp, to portray Hitler, to imagine themselves in a gas chamber? (click on the article below to expand it)
It really hasn't been a great week, to say the least. So let's cultivate hope, and there are so many reasons for hope right now. So many. All we have to do is look for them, and we don't have to look far.

  • The ADL, whose very existence is all about alarming us, does just that by presenting its Top Ten Heartbreaking Moments of Hate for 2021 (guess what's #1, and on what date in January it occurred). And for good reason, they dubbed last weekend a "Weekend of Hate." But right on the front page of their website, the ADL also presents 2021's Top Ten Moments of Inspiration and Hope. And there were plenty of big, inspirational moments to choose from in 2021: A $26 million verdict against the white supremacists responsible for Charlottesville; the launch of a $1.1 billion foundation to help prevent Anti-Asian hate crimes; and meaningful legal victories against racially motivated violence – just to name a few.

  • Read Yair Rosenberg's profile of Israel's Prime Minister in waiting, Yair Lapid. No matter what your political views, you'll come away hopeful, cheering that this year, Israel took a giant leap in the direction of preserving democracy and forging a better society - setting an example to the rest of the word, including the US, as to how it can be done. Lapid shepherded a new government into existence, against all odds, and it was able to stabilize itself by passing a budget, against all odds, and marginalize the extremists who would have been sitting in the cabinet had his gambit not succeeded. Lapid, considered a lightweight for so long, may have saved Israel's democracy - and through the sheer force of his example, may have helped to save ours as well. He frames the struggle perfectly. It's not left vs. right or hawk vs dove, just as here it's not Democrat vs. Republican. It's extremism vs. democracy. The diverse coalition that forms the current Israeli government is designed to get very little done, and that's frustrating for everyone. But in stabilizing the democracy and working toward greater dignity for Israel's Arab minority, (you have to read the article to fully appreciate what he has done to even bring greater equality to Israeli society), Lapid has done more than enough.

  • Meanwhile here in America, I am proud to be putting Jonathan Sacks' definition of hope to work, by being one of over 800 leaders joining Martin Luther King III in a letter to President Biden and the Senate to prioritize voting rights in 2022. See the letterSacks wrote, Hope is the belief that, together, we can make things better. No Jew – knowing what we do of the past, of hatred, bloodshed, persecution in the name of God, suppression of human rights in the name of freedom – can be an optimist. But Jews have never given up hope.
  • A necrology is a counterintuitive place to seek hope, but take a look at the profiles of 18 noteworthy Jews who died in 2021. If ever you wondered whether any person can make a difference, scroll down past Sheldon Adelson and Ed Asner to Flory Jagoda, who wrote “Ocho Kandelikas,” and preserved Sephardic culture while simultaneously adding to it. So many of these lives can only bring us a sense of hope that people can change things for the better.

  • And finally...
Flory Jagoda "Ocho Kandelikas"
On the front page of an Israeli newspaper this week, you can see this photo of a car sinking into a huge sinkhole in the wake of a mega-storm that hit the entire country. So why is this hopeful? Because the caption is just perfect for a country that brings Judaism to life every moment of every day. It's a play on words from the first chapter of Genesis, with a nod to the 37th. Two biblical allusions in one headline! Actually, three. The Hebrew states, "Va-yehi Bor!" Which means, "And there was a sinkhole!" But in the Bible, "bor" means "pit," or "cistern," often a place with lots of water (fitting here), and also is a reminder of the pit where Joseph was entrapped by his brothers (also called a "bor"), though presumably not while sitting in his car. And here's the extra play on words. The headline rhymes with "Vayehi Or," "And there was light," the Universe's response to the first divine words uttered in the Torah, "Y'hi Or," "Let there be light!" The wordplay is clearly intentional. Any Israeli with a minimal elementary school education would get the reference immediately. The proof of that is that the newspaper used the headline in the first place. Israelis know their Bible. For everyone but the owner of that car, this classic wordplay is a touchstone linking a meteorological calamity to the our most sacred text and to our sacred language. If ever there was a reason to learn some Hebrew, it's so that we all can be in on this joke, so that we all might literally be speaking the same language, and on the same page.

This wordplay is precisely what can give us hope at a time like this. Yes the Rockies may crumble, Gibraltar may tumble (another biblical wordplay, via George and Ira Gershwin, on Isaiah 54:10), but despite it all, there are things that are even more enduring than our landscape, which as we can see, is sinking. The eternal message of our sacred scriptures is more lasting, as well as our eternal connection to the land of Israel, to our fellow Jews and peace seekers everywhere, and our unshakable, hope-driven commitment to the future of humanity. For despite it all, God is telling us, by way of an unlucky car sinking in stormy Tel Aviv, our love is here to stay.

Have a Merry Shabbat, a Hopeful New Year...

...and to all a guten nacht! (click to find out about an obscure Jewish Christmas custom)


Rabbi Joshua Hammerman
Temple Beth El
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Friday, January 17, 2020

Shabbat-O-Gram: MLK - Heschel Shabbat; Spiritual Audacity; Moses and the Mysterious Midwives

Shabbat-O-Gram 

The first conference on religion and race took place in Egypt. The main participants were Pharaoh and Moses. Moses said, “Thus saith the God of Israel, ‘Let My people go.’” And Pharaoh answered, “Who is the Lord that I should heed His word? I will not let them go.” The outcome of that summit meeting has not come to an end. Pharaoh is not ready to capitulate. The Exodus began, but it is far from being complete. 

-Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel

Abraham Joshua Heschel at a convocation at Congregation Kehillath Israel in Brookline, MA in the 1960s.   That's my father, Cantor Michal Hammerman, leading the procession.



We received this lovely thank-you note from the staff of Building 1 Community 
after the holiday party we prepared for them in December. B1C  facilitiates the successful immigration of immigrants and their families to our area. We are proud to work with them toward that end, so that all who reach our golden shores will feel embraced by their community.


Shabbat Shalom

Every so often the stars align, where MLK Weekend coincides with the yahrzeit for Abraham Joshua Heschel and the portion of Shemot - the first portion of the book of Exodus.  That's the part where the Israelites are enslaved and Moses receives the call the prophecy.  Such is the case this year.  Heschel's yahrzeit was this week, on the 15th - coinciding with King's actual birthday.  In honor of that yahrzeit, I'm focusing on Heschel in this O-Gram.

Both great leaders were prophets who spoke a lot about the ancient Israelite prophets, who, according to Heschel, were the ones who first commented on the evil of indifference.  They also walked together in Selma.

 

On Friday night, Beth Styles will again join us, and she has produced a very special MLK Weekend service, assisted by Jason Terry and the New World Chorus.  It will be a Gospel-Jewish Mashup, worthy of Heschel, King, and, for that matter, Moses.  This is something I approached her with months ago - a way to celebrate this special weekend as it needs to be celebrated: with a love that reaches beyond one faith group within our community.  We will be sprinkling in relevant quotes and thoughts related to one of Dr King's most lasting speeches, culled from the Talmud of MLK, a recent project of the innovative Jewish startup, "Repair the World."

Not to be outdone, on Shabbat morning we'll have another Shabbat-in-the-Round, where I will be joined by Cantor Deborah Katchko-Gray.  As we explore the portion of Shemot, a special point of emphasis will be the role of heroes, both known and unknown, in particular, Moses himself and the heroic Israelite (or Egyptian?) midwives Shifra and Puah, who saved Israelite boys from drowning at the hands of Pharaoh's evil decree.  Join us for breakfast - service begins at 9:45, and then a kiddush lunch follows.  Read more about those mysterious midwives from TheTorah.com and the Jewish Women's Archive, and here's another feminist take on the story. And preview the parsha packet here.


Also on my recommended reading list this week:
Secular Synagogues Taking Root in Israel (Tablet magazine) My own take on this phenomenon is that it's not far off from what many congregations here are doing, echoing ideas expressed a century ago by Rabbi Mordechai Kaplan, author of "Judaism as a Civilization."
How Shall We Pray During Impeachment? (Religion and Politics)  
Bitterly Funny Eretz Nehederet Israeli Show Spoofs "Elections 2030" and Absurd Political Reality (JPost)  I watched it on Israeli TV - really funny - and it's good to know that Israelis still know how to laugh at themselves.  Over here, SNL is still struggling to find its voice.
Fifth World Holocaust Forum (Yad Vashem website) will take place on Jan 23, next Thurs., and world leaders will converge on Jerusalem as the world commemorates the 75th anniversary of the liberation of Auschwitz the following week. The event will include speeches by will include speeches by Heads of State from France, Great Britain, Russia (yes, Putin will be there), the United States (VP Pence) and Germany.  


Middah Yomi:  Daily Dosage of Jewish Values for 2020
This week's focal point for character building:  

Spiritual Audacity: 
The Legacy of Abraham Joshua Heschel

 

So what is there to say about Abraham Joshua Heschel's legacy, 48 years after his passing?  
His accusations against the American Jewish establishment were piercing, often characterizing it as shallow, materialistic and indifferent.  He was also critical of rabbis and synagogues, saying:
Quote #1: "Has the synagogue become the graveyard where prayer is buried?  Are we, the spiritual leaders of American Jewry, members of a burial society?  There are many who labor in the vineyard of oratory; but who knows how to pray, or how to inspire others to pray?  There are many who can execute and display magnificent fireworks; but who knows how to kindle a spark in the darkness of a soul?"    

His daughter, Susannah Heschel, wrote the following in Tikkun on the occasion of his 25th yarhzeit, summing up his many contributions:

Quote #2"So much of what Jews have created in the last 25 years stems from Heschel's inspiration: the Havurah movement, social-conscious political activism, the revival of Jewish spirituality, renewed interest in Hasidism, creative Jewish theology, the renewed pride in being Jewish.  What we are missing today, however, is the voice of moral leadership that we heard with Heschel, and, I add, with Martin Luther King. His prophetic tradition has been replaced by voices of witness that describe anti-Semitism, voices of doom that decry statistics of assimilation, and voices of anger that insist on narrow definitions of Judaism.  They leave us with a cynical taste in our mouths; none that gives us the transcendent vision we need.  Today, in celebrating my father's memory, we have to bring to life the joyful and thoughtful aspects of Judaism he taught and exemplified: that we are all made in the image of God, that God's creation is filled with wonder and awe and that God needs us as partners in caring for our fellow human beings and all of creation."


And now, with a full generation having grown to adulthood since Heschel's death, it is easier to see just how profound and lasting his influence has been. The activism that this generation of rabbis (and many of their congregants) espouse is Heschelian activism, as distinguished from the New Dealism that characterized the prior generation.  It still trends to the left politically, but it is based on a vision steeped in Heschel's Hasidic roots, his joyous spirituality, his unabashed love of Judaism and his unbending willingness to speak truth to power.  Heschel practically invented the modern notion of "Tikkun Olam," joining it to Martin Luther King's bending the arc of history.  He was the one who "prayed with his feet" at Selma and who, in protesting against the Vietnam War, said famously:

Quote #3 "In a free society, some our guilty, all are responsible."

Heschel was an unashamed Zionist and even saw glimpses of messianic fulfillment in Israel's 1967 reunification of Jerusalem.  Still, he was clear that "We do not worship the soil," meaning that the land is not holy; it is, he affirmed, a place where holiness is to be created. So, although he did not live to see the results of Israel's continuing possession of the Territories and the failed attempts at peace, it is fair to speculate that he would not be a supporter of holding on to the biblical land of Israel for religious purposes. It is also fair to say to suggest that Heschel's activist legacy is directly responsible for the civil disobedience of the "Women of the Wall," which has long sought opening of the Western Wall to egalitarian prayer.

In his essay, "Existence and Celebration," (found in the collection "Moral Grandeur and Spiritual Audacity," Heschel distinguishes between Jewish survival and renewal. It is an important distinction, one that we should draw, because American Jews have gotten stuck in a survivalist trap.  Heschel writes that it is more productive to be preoccupied with enhancing the present than to nurture fears about the future. Here we are, living not in the moment, not in awe of the moment and of God's presence in this moment, but living in utter fear of whether our great grandchildren will have a Christmas tree.  Heschel would advise us to let the future take care of itself.  He scoffed at surveys. 

Quote #4: "Our community is in spiritual distress," he said, "and some of our organizations are often too concerned with digits."  He bristled at the stifling of criticism within organizational life, the "dogma of infallibility," as he called it. The true problem, he said, is not how to survive, but what to survive for.

Heschel did not live in a world of potential Iranian nukes, but Israel was no safer then than it is now. The existential dangers to Jewish survival are, in fact, far less severe now than at any time in Heschel's life. But even while the Holocaust was still going on, he quoted the Ba'al Shem Tov in stating,

Quote #5: "If a man has beheld evil, he may know that it was shown to him in order that he learn his own guilt and repent; for what is shown to him is also within him." 

To that Heschel added:

Quote #6: "Soldiers in the horror of battle offer solemn testimony that life is not a hunt for pleasure, but an engagement for service; that there are things more valuable than life.... Either we make (the world) an altar for God or it is invaded by demons. There can be no neutrality. Either we are ministers of the sacred or slaves of evil. Let the blasphemy of our time not become an eternal scandal. Let future generations not loathe us for having failed to preserve what prophets and saints, martyrs and scholars have created in thousands of years."

In words spoken at the General Assembly of North American Federations toward the end of his life, he waxed prophetic about what it meant to be part of a Jewish community in America. What Heschel said then, and what is true now, is that Jewish institutions have fallen victim to what he calls "a campaign of spiritual liquidation," a malaise of hopelessness that leads only to more blaming and bitterness, to a basic view of Jewish existence that sees only the negative, that speaks only in material terms.   He said:

Quote #7: "Our institutions maintain too many beauty parlors.  Our people need a language and we offer them cosmetics.  Our people need style, learning, conviction, exaltation and we are concerned about not being admitted to certain country clubs.  To paraphrase the words of Isaiah: What is to me the multitude of your organizations says the Lord.  I have had enough of your vicarious loyalty.  Bring me no more vain offerings; generosity without wisdom is an evasion, an alibi for conscience....We are ingenious in fund raising, which is good; we are shipwrecked in raising our children, which is tragic.  We may claim to be a success, but in the eyes of Jewish history we may be regarded as a failure."

 

If we are to bring the spirit of Heschel into our Jewish communities, we must place spiritual growth above all other goals, including survival itself.  For without God, without a sense of covenant, without Torah and Sinai in our midst, there is nothing to survive for.  The human being without God, he exclaims, is merely a torso.  We have built a fine midsection.  Have we lost the head?  Have we lost the heart?  Have we lost the soul?

Shabbat Shalom  

Rabbi Joshua Hammerman


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Friday, December 27, 2013

Shabbat-O-Gram for December 27

Shabbat-O-Gram

Thank you to our TBE volunteers at Inspirica (here photographed with "Lander Claus") and Pacific House, who brought holiday cheer to so many last Tuesday night. It was, as always, a deeply inspiring and humbling opportunity to perform an important mitzvah. Thanks also to all who prepared food and donated time and other items for this important annual project.  Next year, I fully intend to sit on Steve Lander's lap, as long as all cameras are OFF!


A Look Back... A Look Ahead

As we stand on the cusp of a new secular year, this is an appropriate time to look back and look ahead.

Looking Ahead:

I'll be going solo this evening with the cantor away, but this year-end setting provides us with the perfect opportunity to take a sneak peak at a new Sabbath prayer book still in production.  This siddur is based on the very popular new High Holidays machzor that we began using a couple of weeks ago.  Curious to try this one out (and share reactions)? Come tonight at 7:30. 

Looking Back:

Many of us look back with great fondness at the years Rabbi Barb Moskow served our school and community.  I'm delighted that Barb will be delivering tomorrow mornings d'var Torah.  Join us for services, beginning at 9:30.

Meanwhile you can look back at last week's parsha packet  Moses and the Hero's Journey, which, along with some additional Legends of Moses' Childhood, enabled us to compare the stories of Moses with the journeys of ancient historical and mythological heroes from other cultures and faith traditions (including, appropriately, Christianity).

Looking Back:

Many of us look back with great fondness at the years Rabbi Barb Moskow served our school and congregation.  I'm delighted that Barb will be delivering tomorrow mornings d'var Torah.  Join us for services, beginning at 9:30.

Looking Ahead to the new week:  Our experiment in Doodle Minyans has passed with flying colors.  We've had minyans every day since the Minyan Maker went online.  But past performance is no guarantee of future results.  So sign up for the next few days here.

Looking Ahead to the New Year:

Check our upcoming bulletin and other announcements for a plethora of January events. Of special note is a showing of the film "Journey of the Universe" on Jan. 14, with guest speaker Teresa Eickel of Interreligious Eco-Justice Network.  It's one of the most inspirational spiritual films I've ever seen, and yet it hardly mentions religion at all. See more information here.  

Y.A.C at T.B.E: Jan. 10 @ 6:30 - a wine and cheese reception for young couples, the premier event for our new Young Adult Couples group.  If you know of a young couple in our area, (member, non member, child of a member, including interfaith couples, married, unmarried, straight, gay,) let us know so we can invite them personally.  As for age range - we'll let you determine that! Our goal is to be as inclusive as possible.

Also, we've got some great Shabbat programming coming up, including a new series of Learner's Services, where a key theme of contemporary Jewish life will be  wedded to both the portion of the week and a prayer from the liturgy: Shabbat Conversations: Parsha, Prayer and Purpose.  

Also, we'll continue the series "This American Jewish Life, with TBE congregants sharing perspectives on their life journeys.  These testimonies showcase the extraordinary stories our congregants have to tell.  At the next one, on Friday Jan. 10, we'll hear from a TBE young adult who has confronted the demons of addiction and recovery.

And the Israel trip information session has been rescheduled to Sunday Jan 5 at noon. Over 20 people have already registered!  You can preview the trip and book online here. Space is limited! 


Looking Back at 2013:


Below is an article of mine appearing in this week's Jewish Week's Year End Supplement.  To you and yours, a safe and happy secular new year!

Rabbi Joshua Hammerman

It Was a Great Year.  Really.
By Joshua Hammerman

2013 was a very good year for the Jewish people - and an even better one for the Jewish Message.

Wait, what? How can I say this at the end of a year when the Pew report led pundits to declare that the sun is setting on American Jewry; a year featuring major organizational scandals involving sex abuse cover-ups, kickbacks, illicit affairs and, in the case of the Holocaust Claims Conference, $57 million taken out of the pockets of survivors?  A year when Israel and America were at loggerheads over a risky deal with Iran, when Ryan Braun was suspended for doping and Steven Spielberg failed to win the Oscar for "Lincoln?"  Fittingly, the Oscar for best song was won by Jewish director Sam Mendes' aptly named film, "Skyfall."

But the sky did not fall. 

American Jewry is in fact ascendant, and Israel, despite approaching a crucial crossroads with Iran, has never been in a superior geostrategic position, with the Arab world engulfed in internecine conflict.  And with vast untapped natural gas reserves off shore and water desalination in high gear, Israel's economic potential is soaring.

The most significant revelation of the Pew survey was not the increasing rate of assimilation or the attrition rate of all the movements (Orthodox included).  It's that almost every American Jew loves being Jewish.  We feel pretty - and we look it.  Now we can make fun our old neuroses (such as when Sarah Silverman suggested recently that Brandeis team mascot is a nose), knowing that Adam Levine is People Magazine's Sexiest Man Alive and Esquire's Sexiest Woman is Scarlett Johansson.  Deep down, we like ourselves.  We look like Mila Kunis, pitch like Craig Breslow and win six Nobel Prizes in a single year.  In 2013, Woody Allen morphed into Stuart Smalley.

When 94% of U.S. Jews say they are proud to be Jewish, this is nothing short of miraculous, given the Chicken Little version of history that we've been force fed for generations. I can't think of another time in Jewish history where 94% would even have had the confidence to open the door for the pollster, much less admit openly that they are proud to be Jews.

A new kind of Jewish community is being forged, one less dependent on traditional boundaries and definitions.  A wider variety of behaviors has become normative and acceptable. Fewer are being left out of the big tent - including those who are non-observant, intermarried, gay, people of color or not halachically Jewish.  This is scary to many, but the train has left the station.  Not just here.  The reigning Miss Israel is of Ethiopian background, and the 2013 winner of Israel's version of "The Voice" was an Israeli Arab.  This is the year when the Women of the Wall finally broke through that glass Chuppah, and when Israeli women refused to sit in the back of the bus.  The Sharansky plan to create space for pluralistic, egalitarian prayer at the Kotel was yet another example that the Jewish message of inclusiveness, the mandate to love the stranger, is winning out.  

In the U.S., that message was embodied this year by Edie Windsor, her lawyer Roberta Kaplan and the three Jewish Supreme Court justices, who together overturned the Defense of Marriage Act and set the country on a new track where marriage equality has not only become imaginable, but inevitable.

The Chicken Littles will point to evidence that younger Jews are rejecting denominational labels (like young Americans of all religious backgrounds), and many are fleeing ritual, synagogue affiliation and organizational involvement.  Theirs is more of a Judaism-by-choice, a cafeteria Judaism where God and tradition are no longer the only items on the menu.

It's interesting that only 39% of Pew's "Jews by religion" claim that God even exists. But 42% of Jews who claim to be of "no religion" attend Passover Seders, and many attend High Holidays services - those occasions when the Jewish Message is most powerfully reinforced.  Something very tangible is keeping even the most assimilated Jews in the Jewish orbit at a time when ethnicity and nostalgia have lost their pull.  And for many whose ancestors long ago left the fold, something is pulling them back.

Pew indicated that the Holocaust has enduring power for American Jews.  But for Pew Jews, the lessons of the Shoah emphasize resilience, hope and loving the stranger, not fear, shame, hatred, revenge and despair.  Seventy years after Auschwitz, our mourning has dissolved into pure, constructive remembering.  We are moving on.  Pew painted a picture of a Jews who feel welcome in their neighborhoods and are unscarred by bias (fewer than half - 43% - feel that Jews face discrimination).  In fact, Pew Jews think several other groups face more bigotry than they do, including, wonder of wonders, Muslims.  

Amazingly, post Holocaust Jewry has never abandoned its basic human capacity for kindness, even as we continue to struggle with the God who allowed Auschwitz to happen, and who allowed 20 children to die in Newtown, hundreds of lives to be shattered in Boston and 1127 to die in a decrepit Bangladesh clothing factory and nearly 6000 in a Pacific typhoon.  So we struggle with God, but struggling with God has always been a central feature of the Jewish Message.

The defining battle taking place in the Jewish world right now is not between Orthodox and liberal, because the same struggle rages within each of the movements too.  It is the battle between justice and love, strictness and acceptance, between exclusivity and inclusivity, between keeping out and welcoming in.   In 2013, the pendulum tilted toward love.

In the Sh'ma's opening paragraph, the one that begins "You shall love," it states that "these words shall be on your heart." 

Why "on" your heart and not in it? 

The Kotzker rebbe responds:

"We should at least keep these words "on" our hearts, for everyone has a time when his heart opens, and if we have kept the words on our hearts, then they will be ready to fall in, in that short moment of openness."

In 2013, our hearts opened just slightly, just enough for that divine message, the one imploring us to love, to sink in.

We've officially entered the post-guilt, post victimhood era of American Judaism. 

It was a very good year.