Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 30, 2020

From the Rabbi's Bunker, April 30-May1: The Cruelest Month (ever); When Do We Open Up the Economy? Kosher Pork; The People Who Dwells Apart...Together; The Darkness of Egypt

From the Rabbi's Bunker
Shabbat-O-Gram

    Koby Hayon leading our Zoom celebration for Israel's Independence Day.

 
K students showing their colors!

Our 7th graders were asked for their favorite Israeli innovation:
Sydney: Waze
Camryn: Gaga
Sophie: gas masks and helicopters
Brandon: USB flash drive

What's yours?

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April is the cruellest month, breeding 
Lilacs out of the dead land, mixing
Memory and desire, stirring
Dull roots with spring rain.


Shabbat Shalom

When TS Eliot called April "the cruellest month," he had no idea what this April would be like.  Now May begins, and with it, the hope that brighter days may lie ahead. Another poet, Lucille Clifton, in her poem "Blessing the Boats," expressed the wish that we all share as the cruelest month gives way to May:

may the tide
that is entering even now
the lip of our understanding
carry you out
beyond the face of fear

Join us at 6 on Friday as out K,1 and 2 students will be sure to brighten our day as they, along with Cantor Katie Kaplan, will co-lead the service with me.  This will be our main Kabbalat Shabbat service. Rabbi G will lead the Torah study at 11 on Shabbat morning.

We've gotten used to this new normal as we see the curve beginning to flatten. With all the sadness we're experiencing, with our adaptation to a life of masks and fear and endless grieving, this April has indeed been the cruelest of months.

Those legendary April showers have been transformed, in 2020, into windswept deluges; but if we simply add some kindness, those May flowers can - and will - still grow.

When Can the Economy Reopen?

This is the question of the hour, and Jewish sources have much to teach us.
 

Kosher Pork

Much of the conversation this week has revolved around infection being widespread in meat production factories. Several years ago, Conservative rabbis created the Magen Tzedek seal.  It imposed a higher level of Kashrut supervision that evaluated not only regarding standards of ritual slaughter and meat preparation (with involves painless slaughter, draining the blood, salting, etc.), but also three other areas of ethical importance: humane treatment of animals, concern for the welfare of the workers and environmental impact.  The Magen Tzedek project has waned, but there is no question that the knowing and forced exposure of workers to unsafe conditions flies against all the principles behind Kashrut as we know it.  Kosher laws might seem irrelevant to consumers of pork and non-kosher meat products produced by companies like Tyson, but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't speak up about it.

In fact, we should be outraged whenever workers anywhere are forced to expose themselves and their families - and by extension, the rest of us - to unsafe working conditions.   And on top of it, if the goal of the current executive order is to prevent workers from being able to sue companies that force them to take such risk, that is shameful.

So look at these study materials.

And as you do, remember that we create a holy society by caring for the most vulnerable among us.  The disease, like some kind of microbial Amalek, had made a beeline right for them: the elderly, particularly in nursing homes, workers (and the unemployed), those with underlying medical conditions, minorities, immigrants (who are being targeted more by the government than the disease itself) and the incarcerated.  As Martin Luther King wrote:

  
Photo: Reuters



A People Who Dwells Apart...Together

It's not often that I'll recommend that people open up an ultra-Orthodox newspaper, but these are not normal times, so please click here and flip through the pages of this week's Flatbush Jewish Journal. You will find there a small hint of the grief that that community has been enduring because of Covid-19.  You'll see it in the ads, in the articles, and most of all, in the many pages of tributes.  Jews have long believed that no one dies alone - or marries alone, or, in fact does just about anything alone.  So the mess regarding recent funerals and weddings among Haredi Jews, from Brooklyn to Bnai Brak, has been a source of both concern and consternation.

Jews just can't seem to stay away from other Jews.  Just ask Mayor de Blasio, who chewed out the Jewish community for the inordinately large gathering at a recent funeral in Brooklyn.  Now while the mayor should not get a pass for painting the Jewish community with such a broad brush, neither should other Jews ignore what happened. We are our brother's keeper, and this week's portion implores us not to stand idly by.  So we should be calling out all those who endanger us by not keeping social distance rules.  I know that I feel horribly when I have to inform families that no more than ten can attend a funeral, and there have been so many funerals. Those rules of social distancing need to apply to everyone.

Israelis were in total lockdown yesterday, unable to celebrate Independence Day in the normal ways. Isolation does not come naturally for the "people that dwells apart." That's why the government couldn't relax the lockdown even a little yesterday.  They knew that, given an inch, Israelis would soon be all over the beaches and parks and bopping total strangers on the street with those squeaky hammers and spraying that silly snow, as they do every other Yom Ha'atzmaut.  And the day before, on Memorial Day, they all would have flocked to the cemeteries.  The cemeteries were closed on Memorial Day.

So this week, Israel helped to teach us how to do both grief and celebration safely, on a national level.  It may have been more subdued than normal, but it did not lack for togetherness, even as everyone was apart.

See the three video examples below:

1) The annual military awards ceremony at the president's house was handled quite differently.  The musical numbers were wonderfully inclusive, bringing in a wide spectrum of voices was in the musical montages about 24 and 51 minutes in.  

2) And then below that, see the opening ceremony from Mount Herzl, which also demonstrated that it is possible to celebrate separately and to remain united in the Corona Era. 

3) And the final video of the three is the annual International Bible Quiz, which this year was held online, but was still as thrilling and as unifying as ever.  Playing along in my armchair, I even got a few of the answers right this year (it is NOT easy).


משדר מיוחד מבית הנשיא | יום העצמאות ה-72 למדינת ישראל ה' אייר התש




טקס הדלקת המשואות מהר הרצל | ערב יום העצמאות ה-72 למדינת ישראל התש



חידון התנ


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And while we are at it, see this fascinating award-winning video about Israel, made available for general viewing this week

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The Darkness of Egypt

I always love how our ancient sources live and breathe in Israeli culture.  You don't have to go to rabbinical school to know that this week's portion contains the central verse, "Love your neighbor as yourself."  And there it was, on the screen, introducing the Mount Herzl ceremony, whose theme emphasized the unity and mutual responsibility of all Israelis.

 
It reminded me of an episode of Fauda Season 3 that I was watching this past week, where Israelis were about to cut the power to Gaza.  The term for "blackout" used was "Hoshech Mitzrayim," evoking the biblical plague of darkness inflicted upon Egypt. The text of Exodus 10 and accompanying commentary talk of this being darker than the ordinary night, a supernaturally thick and tangible darkness.

The subtitles just said "total blackout" or some such, failing to convey the 3,500 year cultural flavor of the Hebrew.  The Bible truly comes alive in the Jewish state, where even Doron from Fauda is a midrash scholar, without even knowing it.


More on this week's Torah portions, Ahare-Mot and Kedoshim 

Bestiality in Biblical and Hittite Law (it's been a long quarantine...)

If You are Really Missing Sports and You Love the Omer...check out



Over the seven weeks between Passover and Shavuot, count the Omer with us as we meditate on how the (divine qualities) sefirot show up in the games we love most. Whether you're a fan of basketballbaseball, or hockey , we hope that our playful reflections on the spiritual side of sports bring meaning and joy to your practice of counting the Omer this year.

And finally, we hear from last week's cancelled guest:

Lisa Grove-Raider  passes along the youtube link to the video of her Great-Uncle Kurt Kleinman as he receiving the Medal of Valor from the Simon Wiesenthal Center.  He had planned to show this video as part of his presentation at TBE on April 19th. His story has been told in the bestselling book, The Boy Who Followed His Father into Auschwitz.


Shabbat Shalom and Happy May!

Rabbi Joshua Hammerman

Monday, March 16, 2020

Coronavirus Update, March 16. The Mitzvah of Social Distancing; What Will Happen to Bar Mitzvahs? Healing of Soul, Healing of Body

From the Rabbi's Bunker

Homebound Israelis singing on their balconies 
(a practice originated in Italy), 
a familiar and very appropriate song: 
B'Shana Ha'ba'ah

"Next year we'll sit on our porches 
counting the migrating birds. 
Kids on a holiday will play Tag
Between the house and the fields
You will see, you will see
How good it will be
Next, next year"

 
https://lyricstranslate.com

בשנה הבאה נשב על המרפסת. דווקא עכשיו!
בשנה הבאה נשב על המרפסת. דווקא עכשיו!
Thanks to Irma Ross for sharing this one...
 


No Large Gatherings?  What About Bar Mitzvahs?

Monday, March 16

This morning I wrote to our 2020 B'nai Mitzvah families, including the adult b'nai mitzvah class.  With state regulations now restricting gatherings to groups of less than 50, what was abstract and theoretical has suddenly become all-too-real. The eight week time frame recommended by the CDC takes through the first bar mitzvahs of the season us right up to our adult b'nai mitzvah, scheduled for May 16.  

If the current restrictions hold, we will soon be faced with a decision as to whether to postpone B'nai Mitzvah services or scale them down significantly.  The possibility of streaming video does exist - but for those with Sabbath observant relatives it may not be ideal. 

If we choose to postpone, which is the most likely scenario, the first question people will ask is whether all that study of a particular Torah portion or haftarah will be for naught.  Let me offer a rabbinic ruling that could decrease at least that concern. 

For bar and bat mitzvahs postponed during this crisis, I will allow the student(s) to read from the portion they have prepared, at whatever Shabbat the service is rescheduled for.  

So, for example, if the student has prepared a reading from the portion Behar, and the service is rescheduled for the week when we read the portion Re'eh, we will take out two Torahs and read selections from both portions.  The haftarah will be the one that the student has learned - plus perhaps a verse or two from the actual haftarah for that day.

This ruling will stay in effect only for the duration of the coronavirus crisis.

I hope this very unusual - but necessary - response at leasts puts some concerns to rest.  With all the anxiety that this disease provokes, at least we can try to lessen the strain on families of B'nai Mitzvah.  So, students and adults can continue to prepare with Cantor Bear and Judy Aronin, and at least one thing in life can remain stable and constant.

I know that for the kids there must be lots of disappointment in the possibility of postponing their big day (though no doubt for some a little relief as well), but it will enable us to see their celebration as a way of marking our emergence from this coronavirus ordeal every bit as much as it marks the emergence of a child into adulthood.  These postponed post-coronavirus B'nai Mitzvah will be among the most joyous we'll ever share! 

Social Distancing: the Mitzvah

 

Considering not social distancing? Read these ten profiles from Buzzfeed of people you are endangering with your callousness, people with compromised immune systems and other risk factors.  It's just the opposite of the kind of love we are seeing shared all over the world right now - love for people we have never met, yet now we feel that our lives are inexorably intertwined.  See this incredible Twitter thread that brought me to tears.

   
All over the world, we share the same destiny, the same fears, and the same desire to love our neighbor as ourselves...
 



Reb Nachman's Ten Healing Psalms
Before our hands can fix, we need to care. Before we can care, we need to become aware. But how can we remind ourselves to perceive and sustain our sensitivity and capability for compassion? We can shy from the pain that comes with empathy, and we can shy from the pain that comes with taking responsibility for the suffering we cause. But there are consequences to shying away, to disaffection and callous disassociation. If there is any hope, it is as Rebbe Naḥman explained so succinctly: "If you believe that you can damage, then believe that you can fix."
The Psalms or Tehillim in Hebrew, are the core of Jewish liturgy; its poetry believed to be a treasury of the Power to heal. Power to bring about intervention, if only in our own awareness. If every one of us is like a lonely world unto ourselves, then perhaps some shared songs can unite us, and reconnect us to the world we share together: healing it, liberating it, redeeming it with renewed compassion. This is the hope and promise of a devotional practice of reciting lyrics to songs with long lost and ever rediscovered melodies. Melodies which we can only discover through our own private readings of these ancient songs.
According to Pesaḥim 117a [2] there are ten kinds of songs in the Tehillim: Ashrei, Beracha, Maskil, Nitzuach, Shir, Niggun, Mizmor, Tefilla, Hoda'ah, and Halleluyah. In the early 19th century, Rebbe Naḥman, a great-grandson of the Baal Shem Tov, taught that the recitation of ten psalms, each representing one of these categories, could act as a Tikkun (remedy).[3] Their recitation would help in a process of t'shuva leading to an awareness of the divine presence that permeates and enlivens this world.

On April 1810, Rebbe Naḥman revealed the specific ten psalms of this Tikkun to two of his closest disciples, Rabbi Aharon of Bratslav and Rabbi Naftali of Nemirov. 


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I'm planning to do study sessions revolving around these ten Psalms.  Times to be announced.  A great resource for this study is the book Healing of Soul, Healing of Body, by Rabbi Simkha Weintraub, which can be ordered on Amazon.  He looks at each of these psalms through the eyes of contemporary teachers.  Together, we can find comfort and inspiration in this study.

Stay safe

Rabbi Joshua Hammerman 

Friday, February 14, 2020

Shabbat-O-Gram: Which Candidate Would Moses Pick? Love, Jewish Style

Shabbat-O-Gram 


Hebrew School graduation and old confirmation pics have been moved to the school wing, to make way for our new elevator!

 
Shabbat Shalom 

OK, so it's my birthday.  I'm only mentioning it because this morning Judy Aronin (whose birthday was yesterday) gave me an all time best birthday present.

A Red Sox Afikoman bag! The best thing to get me through what looks like will be a crummyseason!

As I sit back and relax this holiday weekend, Rabbi Gerry Ginsburg will be co-leading with Cantorial Soloist Katie Kaplan on Friday night and Cantor Debbie Katchko-Gray on Shabbat morning.  Join us (them) for this, and over the coming weeks, for our cantorial candidates' guest appearances.  It means a lot for you to take in interest in this process that is so important to our future.  Also note that morning minyan on Monday's holiday will be at 9 AM.

Some recommended holiday weekend reading...

"To bigotry no sanction..." George Washington's letter to the Jews of Newport (1780) Here's some background on that famous missive.

This story really made me proud to be a Jew - that a congregation would both 1) take care of one of their own in a time of great need, and 2) stand up for what is right at a time when taking a stand has become increasingly uncomfortable. There should be no controversy here.  Vindman did what is right, for all the right reasons. The smear campaign against him should only cause more people to stand up for him, and as we can see, at least one synagogue, his own, unequivocally has. To which I add another. Lt. Col Vindman, if you are ever in the area, you are welcome here any time as an honored guest. The only issue I have with this article is that the shul is fundraising off of this, which doesn't smell right, even if it is at the family's request.

The Jewish Nightmare of Bernie vs. Trump (Yossi Klein-Halevi, Times of Israel).  While I don't agree entirely with him, Yossi gets us thinking about this choice from the perspective of a right-of-center American immigrant in Israel.

Ganz Maintains Lead in Latest Israeli Polls (Ha'aretz)  A consequential Israeli election is just a couple of weeks away, the panel of judges has been selected for the Netanyahu corruption trial (including some notable toughies), and Israelis are, by and large, yawning.

-  Interfaith Group Renames Itself - Bluish, Jew-ish, and Jew-theran (Forward) 
We've had a longstanding relationship with InterfaithFamily, having participated recently in a pilot project called the Interfaith Inclusion Initiative (IILI). This week they re-branded
 themselves and launched a new website: "18 Doors."  See their brief video introduction below, and here's a link to their new site. 

18Doors: Unlocking Jewish
18Doors: Unlocking Jewish
Is Bernie vs. Bloomberg Good for the Jews? (Jonathan Tilove, Austin Statesman); also, New Hampshire Just ushered in a Bernie vs. Bloomberg Title Fight (The Intelligencer: New York Magazine) and  Is 2020 Really the Year for the First Jewish President? (JTA)  Something must be in the zeitgeist this week.  As Allison Kaplan Sommer wrote Jan. 27 in Haaretz: "For some American Jews, (this match) evokes two uncles feuding across a Friday night dinner table." Bloomberg and Sanders "embody two very different classic modern Jewish archetypes: the rumpled socialist and the buttoned-down capitalist," she wrote. Or, as the trolls will translate it, Trotsky vs. Rothschild.


Could make for interesting seders this year.  Are we ready for this?


Embracing Auschwitz:
Forging a Vibrant, Life-Affirming Judaism
that Takes the Holocaust Seriously 
Now Available on Amazon!


I'm happy to announce that as of this week, my new book is now available for pre-order on Amazon. Here is the link to the Amazon page. The early response has been very positive. You can read the advance praise here, including this:


"Starting with a jarring book title, Joshua Hammerman captures our imagination and re-pivots our approach to dealing with the horrors of the Holocaust. As a gifted journalist and spiritual leader, he makes his case with a clear voice and open heart, showing us that we can fulfill the biblical mandate to 'choose life' by doing so with new forms of joy and sanctity. Hammerman's brave new vision challenges us and demands our attention."
-Gary Rosenblatt, Editor At Large, The Jewish Week

The Moses Primary

כא  וְאַתָּה תֶחֱזֶה מִכָּל-הָעָם אַנְשֵׁי-חַיִל יִרְאֵי אֱלֹהִים, אַנְשֵׁי אֱמֶת--שֹׂנְאֵי בָצַע; וְשַׂמְתָּ עֲלֵהֶם, שָׂרֵי אֲלָפִים שָׂרֵי מֵאוֹת, שָׂרֵי חֲמִשִּׁים, וְשָׂרֵי עֲשָׂרֹת.Ex.18:21 Moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men, such as fear God, men of truth, hating unjust gain; and place such over them, to be rulers of thousands, rulers of hundreds, rulers of fifties, and rulers of tens.
With the primary season at last upon us, people naturally are asking who among the Democrats running the Torah would pick to contest Trump for the presidency.  Well, in this week's portion Moses makes his choice.  And it's.... (drumroll, please)...well, everyone.
You see, Moses' father in law Jethro (not the guy from "Beverly Hillbillies") suggests to Moses that he delegate some of his leadership responsibilities, so that he won't continue to be overwhelmed by the many cases being brought to him by the rank and file.  The criteria they establish for choosing these new leaders is illustrative. If you take a look at this page of commentaries from the portion, you will see that one of the qualifiers is that the nominees be "capable people," ("Anshei Hayil," in Hebrew). 

What does that expression mean? 

Well, pick a commentator and you get a current candidate.  Rashi says, "Rich men," who are beholden to no one.  He would clearly be a Bloomberg supporter. Rashbam focuses on the quality of fearlessness, one we can certainly ascribe to Joe Biden, who has never backed down from a fight.  Ibn Ezra looks for physical endurance - think of Klobuchar in that blizzard.  Nachmanides is looking for wisdom and honesty, which frankly, means he is possibly thinking about writing in Larry David, but these qualities could define any number of candidates, including Buttigieg, whose birth chart reveals that he is "wise beyond his years." And then there's the next line in the Torah, the next qualification, "who spurns ill-gotten gain," which Ibn Ezra immediately defines in one word: "money."  So he would be the Sanders or Warren delegate. 

All of which goes to show us that political eligibility is in the eye of the beholder. And Moses will probably wait until at least Super Tuesday before deciding.  


Love, Jewish Style

 
Touching photo of Rabbi Vicki and Harold Axe in the
Stamford Advocate this week. Read the article

A few years ago, I wrote this about love in a High Holiday sermon - words appropriate for Valentine's Day.  Some of these thoughts came back to me this week, as in our "Beyond Dispute" class we studied the famous Ben Azzai - Akiva debate (presented below).

Reb Shlomo Carlebach said, "If we had two hearts like we have two arms and two legs, then one heart could be used for love and the other one for hate. Since I have but one heart, then I don't have the luxury of hating anyone."
For ours is a religion of Love. Ours is a God of Love.

There's an argument in the Talmud between Rabbi Akiva and Shimon Ben Azzai, over which is the most basic principle of the Torah. Akiva says, "Love your neighbor as yourself." He was a big fan of love. He LOVED love. He's the guy who put the Song of Songs into the Bible, and his late-blooming romance with his wife Rachel is maybe the greatest Jewish love story of all time.

But Ben Azzai trumped him by saying, "No, even more important than 'Love your Neighbor' is the verse from Genesis that states, "On the day that God made human beings, they were made in the likeness of God, male and female God created them."

Rabbi Arthur Green, whose book "Radical Judaism" is must reading for any post-modern Jew - and we'll be teaching it here this year - thinks Ben Azzai was on to something important. It's not enough simply to love your neighbor. Anyone can love a neighbor. Azzai says that's not enough! We have to love everyone. Not just the person who lives next door. Not just a fellow Jew. Every human being is in God's image. True, some are harder to love than others. Some are nearly impossible.

And we all know who they are!

Some days you can love them, and some days you can't. Even if you can't love them, you have to treat them with dignity. 
The Sh'ma is our most important prayer and the prayer that commands us to love - V'ahavta - "You shall love the Lord your God." So, one may ask, how can you command love?

Well, it's not really a command, as professor Reuven Kimelman has pointed out. Read properly, "V'ahavta is a response. An instinctive reaction projecting love out into the world. Projecting back what we have received."

In both the morning and evening liturgies, the Sh'ma is immediately preceded by a prayer about love. In the morning, that prayer is Ahava Rabbah - "A Great Love," a transcendent love, an UNCONDITIONAL love. The word for love, "Ahava," appears in various forms no fewer than six times in that single prayer, including the first, middle and last words. Love, love, love, love, love, love. Six times! Like a mantra.

We are loved by an unconditional love - a boundless love, as we say at night, Ahavat Olam. When you've been loved in that way, when the world has loved you in that way, the only way to respond is to give love in return.
V'ahavta - We will love. Not we MUST but we will. We will love because we've been loved. Even at times of enormous suffering, we've been touched by an Ahavah Rabbah. We will love because our God is a God of love, our Torah a Torah of love; every ounce of breath that comes from us is a breath that was given to us in love.

This is the journey we all need to take, the journey from receiving to giving, the journey to unconditional love. Let us make the passage from Ahava Rabba to Ahavat Olam, from a great love, to the greatest love of all, the love of all with whom we share this earth.

It is easy to be cynical. It is easy to be suspicious. It is easy to throw up our arms and disengage.

It is easy to hate. But IF WE HATE - THE HATERS WILL HAVE WON. They will have turned us into them.

No, they don't all hate us. And in the end, it doesn't really matter who hates us and why. All that matters is that we love. Why?
Because we have been loved.

Two Special Interfaith programs this coming week:

1) The first event in the Sharing Sacred Spaces Initiative

THURS., FEBRUARY 20, 2020 6:30-8:30 PM Guru Tegh Bahadur Foundation 633 West Avenue, Norwalk CT 06850 203.857.4460 ● www.gtbf.org  Everyone is welcome! Join us, and find out all about the Sikh faith. Our turn to host will come in June.

2) Religious Voices and the Climate Emergency

  

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Joshua Hammerman (and reserve now for our 2020 Eastern Europe trip!)