Author of "Embracing Auschwitz" and "Mensch•Marks: Life Lessons of a Human Rabbi - Wisdom for Untethered Times." Winner of the Rockower Award, the highest honor in Jewish journalism and 2019 Religion News Association Award for Excellence in Commentary. Musings of a rabbi, journalist, father, husband, poodle-owner, Red Sox fan and self-proclaimed mensch, taken from essays, columns, sermons and thin air. Writes regularly in the New York Jewish Week and Times of Israel.
Thursday, December 8, 2022
In This Moment: The Dreidel and America's Gambling Problem; A Tribute to Jewish Books
In This Moment
This Shabbat is International Human Rights Day, commemorating the signing of the Declaration of Human Rights on Dec. 10, 1948, still the UN's finest hour. Click here to see a poster celebrating all 30 clauses of the declaration. And click here for a Human Rights Shabbat info packet, complete with Jewish sources.
A Tribute to Jewish Books
This will likely be the final Shabbat-O-Gram before the end of the calendar year, so I’m packing a little extra into this pre-Hanukkah edition.
This is Jewish Book Month, which for the past century has marked the time when American Jews celebrate our eternal love affair with books. Study, not prayer, is Judaism’s core religious act. We are, after all, known as "The People of the Book." A synagogue is often called a “Beit Midrash,” a house of study, rather than a “Beit Tefilla,” a house of prayer. To be Jewish is always to be engaged in learning - and to do it together.
Last week's Bar Mitzvah, Jonah Shapiro, loves to read, and he spoke about it in his d'var Torah (read it and watch it here). I highlighted the Book Month celebration with an impromptu Jewish Book Quiz during my Bar Mitzvah charge, which Jonah aced.The Jewish Book Council, organizers of Jewish Book Month designs original posters celebrating Jewish Book Month every year. I've included samples throughout this email.
As we celebrate, an ironic note. Part of our long range capital plan for the upstairs level of the synagogue is to convert the old library to a more modern "media center" and conference room. While the library has somewhat fallen into disuse and I'm sure the replacement will be lovely, it should give us pause to be exchanging all those filled bookshelves for... what? TV monitors? White boards? Cappuccino machines? Anyway, books have lost their centrality as vehicles of learning. I find myself doing 90 percent of my text work on the Sefariaapp or website, rather than opening up bulky volumes of the Talmud. I've long been an advocate of online study - in fact, I wrote a book about it.So I am fully aware that while the technology changes - from stone tablets to Apple tablets, with papyrus and parchment in between - the content remains constant. But while we embrace new modes, we simultaneously treasure and preserve the old, which is why at services we still read Torah from a scroll rather than a book. Both are equally holy. When either a Torah scroll or a humash becomes tattered, we honor them equally by burying them rather than simply discarding - or heaven forbid, burning - them.
So what will become of those old books upstairs? And when our library will be no more, what will we tell the kids USED to be there? It almost feels like Frank Sinatra's old song, There Used to be a Ballpark:
And the people watched in wonder, how they’d laugh and how they’d cheer. And there used to be a ballpark right here.
Those books once brought wonder to the eyes of children, the epic adventures of Ktontonor All of A Kind Family. We’ve got to be sure that those books live on in some form, and that our building will always be a home for curiosity, inquiry and imagination, in whatever form the inspiration may take.
Religion and America's Gambling Problem
Hanukkah celebrates miracles of human heroism and divine providence. But it also celebrates incredible good fortune - pure luck - in life's game of chance; for the festival teaches that life is one continuous game of dreidel. You never know where you are going to land, but no matter what, you keep on spinning. Although this four-sided top has roots far removed from Judaism, the dreidel has landed on our space and has become a valuable means of teaching new generations of Jews to stay in the game.
But now a culture of gambling has overrun us and set our heads spinning faster than any dreidel can. It may be time to cash in our golden chocolate coins and look at the dreidel not as tool to counter assimilation but a reminder to fight addiction.
To gamble, in Hebrew, is l'hamer, which may derive from the three letter Biblical root heh-mem-resh connoting a torrent of gushing waters.
What a perfect metaphor. Gambling, like so many addictive activities, provides a rush every bit as exhilarating as those gushing waters, leaving us thirsty for more. Biblical editors could not have known about Las Vegas slot machines, where, as with playing dreidel, one minute you can be knee deep in jackpot winnings of golden coins, and then a minute later, the flood recedes and you're left standing penniless in a parched river bed.
Note that there is no stigma attached to these transactions, and aside from the occasional oracle or lottery, gambling as we know it is not a prime concern in the Bible. Rarely is it the focus of opprobrium, divine or human. Sodom and Gomorrah were not destroyed because of a backroom poker game. But later authorities took the dangers much more seriously. And so should we.
Did you see recent the recentNew York Times expose on sports gambling? It was one of those revelations that could be characterized as "shocking, but not surprising." Ever since the Supreme Court opened the door to widespread sports betting in 2018, an onslaught of wagering became inevitable, bringing with it a gambling culture that has turned America into a continental casino. What happens in Vegas no longer stays in Vegas. It's happening on every couch and easy chair and barstool in America. Every football game - no, every play - is making someone, somewhere, a lot of money.
Here are the key takeaways from the Times' series:
From the moral perspective, this passage from the series bites especially hard:
The sports-betting industry has been creative in devising ways to persuade people to keep betting even after they lose money, but tools to make it easier to quit — some run by gambling companies, others by states — do not always work. In Indiana, for example, people who sought the government’s help to prevent them from gambling found that they were still able to place bets. Dozens did so.
We were not prepared for this onslaught. It just appeared, suddenly. First there were all those cute ads with the Mannings and suddenly networks were cutting away from to offer in-game prop bets. The game itself has become secondary, part of the stage set, a background to the bets, a prop to the props.
Religious institutions were not prepared (and still are not) to play the role that we were designed to play, that of moral umpire. When the ball is hit, someone's got to cry "foul!" or everyone will just keep on playing. As of yet, no one has cried foul, and the weakest among us are the ones who are suffering, those least able to resist the temptations. While they are losing their shirt, we are throwing in the towel.
OK, let's make sure all those students saddled with gazillions in loan debt will leave school with gambling debts to boot. Nothing bad can come of that!
Online gaming exploded in growth during the pandemic. Forbes reports thatfor the first half of 2022 revenue for sports betting totaled just over $3 billion compared to $4.3 billion for all of last year. Morgan Stanley forecasts revenue to reach $7 billion by 2025. Also, in 2021 Americans bet $57.2 billion on sporting events, a year-over-year increase of 165%. I am so glad that organized crime and political corruption ended so that none of this could be seen as a significant danger.
A recent Pew report indicates that addiction is hitting hard among those not yet legally allowed to bet. Keith Whyte, Executive director of the Council on Problem Gambling, says 4% to 6% of high schoolers are considered addicted to gambling. “We believe that the risks for gambling addiction overall have grown 30% from 2018 to 2021, with the risk concentrated among young males 18 to 24 who are sports bettors,” he said.
So when did religious institutions stop caring about this? Why have they been so slow to respond? If greed is one of the seven deadly sins, right alongside lust, anger and gluttony, why does it seem like some sins are more equal than others? The deadly sins are primarily a Christian thing, but there are Jewish parallels. So why does gambling receive such little attention when pastors go looking for their fire and brimstone?
That's also been true with regard to gambling, but the stakes were never this high. For decades, religious institutions have been sustained by Bingo games and other small-scale wagering, but those foibles seem quaint when compared to sex abuse, embezzlement, intolerance and other assorted hypocrisies.
Also, we clergy have tolerated gambling because, well, we can't oppose every form of pleasure. If we become morality police, we'll end up like the Morality Police itself, which the Iranian government just had to disband. Evidently even the mullahs don't like being disliked. If our entire culture is leaning toward a wholehearted embrace of gambling, which one of us wants to be the killjoy, putting the breaks on this high speed - high stakes enterprise? Better to simply lean back and enjoy the ride and not be the prophet calling out in the wilderness that this is going too far too fast.
Think of how things went for those clergy who tried to convince congregants that Covid dangers are still very real. Over the past several months, as Covid fatigue has set in, people in the pews have been stripping off masks with the liberating abandon of the cast of Hair. It's a perfectly natural response. And for the most part, religious leaders have been too exhausted to resist. These days, we're doing everything with abandon. So why not gambling? Why should clergy stand in the path of fun?
Maybe it's time for synagogues to start selling ad space to Caesars too, like LSU and Michigan State. Maybe it's time to hold services at Foxwoods.
Hey, what could be so bad? Some of our best jokes are about gambling. And Jewish sources do not prohibit pleasure, but they areall about moderation. Natural urges like hunger and lust are not considered in themselves evil, and in fact often yield positive results. Without lust, for instance, there would not be procreation. A little gambling shouldn't hurt anyone, right? Is it wrong to play dreidel? For Jews in the shtetls of Europe, gambling on Christmas Eve was part of the annual "Nittel Nacht" celebration - their version of going out for Chinese food and a movie to wile away the loneliest night of the year.
While few rabbinic authorities have a problem with recreational dreidel games, one rabbi suggeststhat all winnings must be given to tzedakkah (charity) for it to be kosher. Quite often, the charity is the synagogue itself, but most Jewish sources do not endorsegambling as a means of fundraising. Many rabbis through the ages, including the venerated commentators Rashi and Maimonides, have considered it to be a form of robbery, since the losing party to a bet gives up their money against their will.
A Rabbinical Assembly responsum on the topicurges rabbis "to be alert to the evils of gambling in general, and to oppose not only the more obvious problems of involvement with individuals or groups making a profession of gambling within the synagogue, but even more so the subtle and decidedly unwholesome consequences of gambling as a mainstay of synagogue fiscal management."
Gambling is a game of chance that takes without giving value in return. Gambling puts money or other things of value into a pool and then redistributes it on the basis of a roll of the dice, a spin of the wheel, or a drawing of a number. Nothing of value is produced in the process. What does gambling do to its participants? The attitude of taking something from someone else in order to enhance our own position—the essence of gambling—leads us away from the giving path of Christ and toward the taking path of the adversary. The act of taking or trying to take something from someone else without giving value in return is destructive of spiritual sensitivities.
Many other religious groups concur with this message (with Native Americans being a notable exception), and so does law enforcement. Gambling is still considered a "vice," right alongside prostitution, illegal drugs and porn. But few government officials seem inclined to speak out against its unprecedented and unrestrained growth.
Corruption still very much exists, but what has nearly disappeared, aside from religious, judicial and political resistance, is local investigative journalism. So religious institutions need to fill in for the gaping holes where judges and journalists used to tread. We've all dropped the ball on gambling, just as we did with alcohol, greed and lust. But we can change things.
I’m not advocating that we clergy all vie to be the next Bible thumper in “Footloose,” but religious leaders in America have a morality problem. Our moral integrity has been compromised so often that it dilutes our ability to call out society's moral shortcomings. Yes, there is a slippery slope when it comes to holding high moral standards. Some slip down the slope leading to intolerance and vindictiveness. But others slide into acquiescence, into a world with no moral standards at all. I realize that my concerns regarding sports betting reflect the positions of those found on a side of the political spectrum where I don't usually dwell. But I don't feel this should be a partisan issue. It's not an all-or-nothing thing. Sports betting is here to stay. But it needs to be checked and balanced by those few societal forces with the power to do so.
So what can religious groups do about it? For one thing, stop glorifying betting. Be a counterpoint. Be a pain in the neck to authorities and even to our own congregants. If we are promoting small-change gambling at our events, let's include disclaimers. Let's put out information for recovery support services on a table in the back. It might make us a little less "cool" but I'll take that exchange, if it will enable us to fulfill our obligation as a voice of an ancient tradition that promotes good health practices and moderation - and values taking care of our neighbors who have vulnerabilities.
But we also need to roll up our sleeves and take on some of the big boys, for the sake of those college kids at Michigan State and LSU who are about to lose their shirt.
The next time you see a new commercial involving any of the Mannings - even Cooper - just turn it off. We need to pay attention to the growing dangers around us and deal ourselves in to a game with far higher stakes than a four sided Hanukkah top. When it comes to being a check on our society’s moral excesses, we should be relentless. We should never stop spinning that dreidel.
And one more thing. if you are ever offered a wager on the length of my sermons, always take the “over.”
Why are there dots over this word in our Torah portion (and visible in every Torah scroll, as you can see here)? The word, from Genesis 33:4, is "And he kissed him," referring to Esau ending his blood feud with Jacob. Rashi comments: Dots are placed above the letters of this word, and a difference of opinion is expressed in the Baraitha of Sifré (בהעלותך) as to what these dots are intended to suggest: some explain the dotting as meaning that he did not kiss him with his whole heart, whereas R Simeon the son of Johai said: Is it not well-known that Esau hated Jacob? But at that moment his pity was really aroused and he kissed him with his whole heart. So was Esau's smooch a "true love's kiss" or a kiss of death? We don't know, but the question that arises from this is whether every kiss is a little bit of both? See more below in the packet, "Waging Peace."
Dina: Midrash and Legend - Ever since the publication of Anita Diamant's novel,"The Red Tent," there has been a fascination with Jacob's only daughter, Dina. While the biblical text objectifies her and portrays her primarily a victim, the rabbis depicted her as possessing many positive qualities. Dina was our first "#MeToo" case - and one of the saddest.
Human Rights Shabbat Packet - See how each of the 30 articles of the Declaration of Human Rights corresponds to Jewish values and sources. Additionally, see this Human Rights Shabbat packetprepared by Rabbis for Human Rights, filled with prayers, essays and divray Torah connecting this commemoration with Vayishlach.
Hebrew Front Page of the Week
The top headline speaks of the deal to give radical right leader Betzalel Smotrich authority over the territories. Bottom right celebrates a "Carnivale at the World Cup" (Brazil's victory) and last but not least, on the left side you see the horrific news that the price of Hanukkah sufganiot is going way up. "Not just the special fillings, but jelly too!" Now that's a crisis!
Time's 2022 PERSON OF THE YEAR VOLODYMYR ZELENSKY:Zelensky’s success as a wartime leader has relied on the fact that courage is contagious. It spread through Ukraine’s political leadership in the first days of the invasion, as everyone realized the President had stuck around. If that seems like a natural thing for a leader to do in a crisis, consider historical precedent. Only six months earlier, the President of Afghanistan, Ashraf Ghani—a far more experienced leader than Zelensky—fled his capital as Taliban forces approached. In 2014, one of Zelensky’s predecessors, Viktor Yanukovych, ran away from Kyiv as protesters closed in on his residence; he still lives in Russia today. Early in the Second World War, the leaders of Albania, Belgium, Czechoslovakia, Greece, Poland, the Netherlands, Norway, and Yugoslavia, among others, fled the advance of the German Wehrmacht and lived out the war in exile.... That experience (as an improv actor) turned out to have its advantages. Zelensky was adaptable, trained not to lose his nerve under pressure. He knew how to read a crowd and react to its moods and expectations. Now his audience was the world. He was determined not to let them down. His decision to stay at the compound in the face of possible assassination set an example, making it more difficult for his underlings to cut and run.