Thursday, December 8, 2022

In This Moment: The Dreidel and America's Gambling Problem; A Tribute to Jewish Books

In This Moment


This Shabbat is International Human Rights Day, commemorating the signing of the Declaration of Human Rights on Dec. 10, 1948, still the UN's finest hour. Click here to see a poster celebrating all 30 clauses of the declaration. And click here for a Human Rights Shabbat info packet, complete with Jewish sources.

Shabbat Shalom!


A Tribute to Jewish Books


This will likely be the final Shabbat-O-Gram before the end of the calendar year, so I’m packing a little extra into this pre-Hanukkah edition.


This is Jewish Book Month, which for the past century has marked the time when American Jews celebrate our eternal love affair with books. Study, not prayer, is Judaism’s core religious act. We are, after all, known as "The People of the Book." A synagogue is often called a “Beit Midrash,” a house of study, rather than a “Beit Tefilla,” a house of prayer. To be Jewish is always to be engaged in learning - and to do it together.


Last week's Bar Mitzvah, Jonah Shapiro, loves to read, and he spoke about it in his d'var Torah (read it and watch it here). I highlighted the Book Month celebration with an impromptu Jewish Book Quiz during my Bar Mitzvah charge, which Jonah aced. The Jewish Book Council, organizers of Jewish Book Month designs original posters celebrating Jewish Book Month every year. I've included samples throughout this email.

As we celebrate, an ironic note. Part of our long range capital plan for the upstairs level of the synagogue is to convert the old library to a more modern "media center" and conference room. While the library has somewhat fallen into disuse and I'm sure the replacement will be lovely, it should give us pause to be exchanging all those filled bookshelves for... what? TV monitors? White boards? Cappuccino machines? Anyway, books have lost their centrality as vehicles of learning. I find myself doing 90 percent of my text work on the Sefaria app or website, rather than opening up bulky volumes of the Talmud. I've long been an advocate of online study - in fact, I wrote a book about it. So I am fully aware that while the technology changes - from stone tablets to Apple tablets, with papyrus and parchment in between - the content remains constant. But while we embrace new modes, we simultaneously treasure and preserve the old, which is why at services we still read Torah from a scroll rather than a book. Both are equally holy. When either a Torah scroll or a humash becomes tattered, we honor them equally by burying them rather than simply discarding - or heaven forbid, burning - them.


So what will become of those old books upstairs? And when our library will be no more, what will we tell the kids USED to be there? It almost feels like Frank Sinatra's old song, There Used to be a Ballpark:


And the people watched in wonder, how they’d laugh and how they’d cheer. And there used to be a ballpark right here.


Those books once brought wonder to the eyes of children, the epic adventures of Ktonton or All of A Kind Family. We’ve got to be sure that those books live on in some form, and that our building will always be a home for curiosity, inquiry and imagination, in whatever form the inspiration may take.

Religion and America's Gambling Problem


Hanukkah celebrates miracles of human heroism and divine providence. But it also celebrates incredible good fortune - pure luck - in life's game of chance; for the festival teaches that life is one continuous game of dreidel. You never know where you are going to land, but no matter what, you keep on spinning. Although this four-sided top has roots far removed from Judaism, the dreidel has landed on our space and has become a valuable means of teaching new generations of Jews to stay in the game.


But now a culture of gambling has overrun us and set our heads spinning faster than any dreidel can. It may be time to cash in our golden chocolate coins and look at the dreidel not as tool to counter assimilation but a reminder to fight addiction.


To gamble, in Hebrew, is l'hamer, which may derive from the three letter Biblical root heh-mem-resh connoting a torrent of gushing waters.


What a perfect metaphor. Gambling, like so many addictive activities, provides a rush every bit as exhilarating as those gushing waters, leaving us thirsty for more. Biblical editors could not have known about Las Vegas slot machines, where, as with playing dreidel, one minute you can be knee deep in jackpot winnings of golden coins, and then a minute later, the flood recedes and you're left standing penniless in a parched river bed. 


But more likely, the word comes from the three letter root mem-vav-resh, which speaks to the conversion of currency and money changing hands.

Note that there is no stigma attached to these transactions, and aside from the occasional oracle or lottery, gambling as we know it is not a prime concern in the Bible. Rarely is it the focus of opprobrium, divine or human. Sodom and Gomorrah were not destroyed because of a backroom poker game. But later authorities took the dangers much more seriously. And so should we.


Did you see recent the recent New York Times expose on sports gambling? It was one of those revelations that could be characterized as "shocking, but not surprising." Ever since the Supreme Court opened the door to widespread sports betting in 2018, an onslaught of wagering became inevitable, bringing with it a gambling culture that has turned America into a continental casino. What happens in Vegas no longer stays in Vegas. It's happening on every couch and easy chair and barstool in America. Every football game - no, every play - is making someone, somewhere, a lot of money.


Here are the key takeaways from the Times' series:



From the moral perspective, this passage from the series bites especially hard:


The sports-betting industry has been creative in devising ways to persuade people to keep betting even after they lose money, but tools to make it easier to quit — some run by gambling companies, others by states — do not always work. In Indiana, for example, people who sought the government’s help to prevent them from gambling found that they were still able to place bets. Dozens did so.


We were not prepared for this onslaught. It just appeared, suddenly. First there were all those cute ads with the Mannings and suddenly networks were cutting away from to offer in-game prop bets. The game itself has become secondary, part of the stage set, a background to the bets, a prop to the props.


Religious institutions were not prepared (and still are not) to play the role that we were designed to play, that of moral umpire. When the ball is hit, someone's got to cry "foul!" or everyone will just keep on playing. As of yet, no one has cried foul, and the weakest among us are the ones who are suffering, those least able to resist the temptations. While they are losing their shirt, we are throwing in the towel.


When Caesars struck deals recently with Michigan State and LSU, no one seemed to flinch about the corruption that is sure to appear on a campus near you.


OK, let's make sure all those students saddled with gazillions in loan debt will leave school with gambling debts to boot. Nothing bad can come of that!


Online gaming exploded in growth during the pandemic. Forbes reports that for the first half of 2022 revenue for sports betting totaled just over $3 billion compared to $4.3 billion for all of last year. Morgan Stanley forecasts revenue to reach $7 billion by 2025. Also, in 2021 Americans bet $57.2 billion on sporting events, a year-over-year increase of 165%. I am so glad that organized crime and political corruption ended so that none of this could be seen as a significant danger.


A recent Pew report indicates that addiction is hitting hard among those not yet legally allowed to bet. Keith Whyte, Executive director of the Council on Problem Gambling, says 4% to 6% of high schoolers are considered addicted to gambling. “We believe that the risks for gambling addiction overall have grown 30% from 2018 to 2021, with the risk concentrated among young males 18 to 24 who are sports bettors,” he said.


So when did religious institutions stop caring about this? Why have they been so slow to respond? If greed is one of the seven deadly sinsright alongside lust, anger and gluttony, why does it seem like some sins are more equal than others? The deadly sins are primarily a Christian thing, but there are Jewish parallels. So why does gambling receive such little attention when pastors go looking for their fire and brimstone?


Perhaps because some of these other societal issues have hit closer to home for religious groups, from the sex abuse scandals involving clergy (one database counts 6,000 Catholic clergy alone who have been implicated), to the excessive drinking encouraged in many synagogues (via those infamous behind-the-bima "Kiddush Clubsor groups luring underage students to boozy Shabbat dinners). It cuts across denominational lines. All too often, religious groups have been part of the problem rather than the solution.


That's also been true with regard to gambling, but the stakes were never this high. For decades, religious institutions have been sustained by Bingo games and other small-scale wagering, but those foibles seem quaint when compared to sex abuse, embezzlement, intolerance and other assorted hypocrisies.


Also, we clergy have tolerated gambling because, well, we can't oppose every form of pleasure. If we become morality police, we'll end up like the Morality Police itself, which the Iranian government just had to disband. Evidently even the mullahs don't like being disliked. If our entire culture is leaning toward a wholehearted embrace of gambling, which one of us wants to be the killjoy, putting the breaks on this high speed - high stakes enterprise? Better to simply lean back and enjoy the ride and not be the prophet calling out in the wilderness that this is going too far too fast.


Think of how things went for those clergy who tried to convince congregants that Covid dangers are still very real. Over the past several months, as Covid fatigue has set in, people in the pews have been stripping off masks with the liberating abandon of the cast of Hair. It's a perfectly natural response. And for the most part, religious leaders have been too exhausted to resist. These days, we're doing everything with abandon. So why not gambling? Why should clergy stand in the path of fun?


Maybe it's time for synagogues to start selling ad space to Caesars too, like LSU and Michigan State. Maybe it's time to hold services at Foxwoods.


Hey, what could be so bad? Some of our best jokes are about gambling. And Jewish sources do not prohibit pleasure, but they are all about moderation. Natural urges like hunger and lust are not considered in themselves evil, and in fact often yield positive results.  Without lust, for instance, there would not be procreation.  A little gambling shouldn't hurt anyone, right? Is it wrong to play dreidel? For Jews in the shtetls of Europe, gambling on Christmas Eve was part of the annual "Nittel Nacht" celebration - their version of going out for Chinese food and a movie to wile away the loneliest night of the year.


While few rabbinic authorities have a problem with recreational dreidel games, one rabbi suggests that all winnings must be given to tzedakkah (charity) for it to be kosher. Quite often, the charity is the synagogue itself, but most Jewish sources do not endorse gambling as a means of fundraising. Many rabbis through the ages, including the venerated commentators Rashi and Maimonides, have considered it to be a form of robbery, since the losing party to a bet gives up their money against their will.


The Talmud posits that those who gamble should not be allowed to serve as witnesses. One opinion states that this is true only in the case where the gambler has no other occupation and contributes nothing useful to the world. Another sage suggests that since gambling is a form of robbery, even an occasional gambler cannot serve as a witness.


Rabbinical Assembly responsum on the topic urges rabbis "to be alert to the evils of gambling in general, and to oppose not only the more obvious problems of involvement with individuals or groups making a profession of gambling within the synagogue, but even more so the subtle and decidedly unwholesome consequences of gambling as a mainstay of synagogue fiscal management."


Other clergy leaders have been vocal in their opposition as well. In a 1987 address, Mormon Elder Dallin H. Oaks echoed some of the Talmud's points in saying:



Gambling is a game of chance that takes without giving value in return. Gambling puts money or other things of value into a pool and then redistributes it on the basis of a roll of the dice, a spin of the wheel, or a drawing of a number. Nothing of value is produced in the process. What does gambling do to its participants? The attitude of taking something from someone else in order to enhance our own position—the essence of gambling—leads us away from the giving path of Christ and toward the taking path of the adversary. The act of taking or trying to take something from someone else without giving value in return is destructive of spiritual sensitivities.


Many other religious groups concur with this message (with Native Americans being a notable exception)and so does law enforcement. Gambling is still considered a "vice," right alongside prostitution, illegal drugs and porn. But few government officials seem inclined to speak out against its unprecedented and unrestrained growth.


Corruption still very much exists, but what has nearly disappeared, aside from religious, judicial and political resistance, is local investigative journalism. So religious institutions need to fill in for the gaping holes where judges and journalists used to tread. We've all dropped the ball on gambling, just as we did with alcohol, greed and lust. But we can change things.


I’m not advocating that we clergy all vie to be the next Bible thumper in “Footloose,” but religious leaders in America have a morality problem. Our moral integrity has been compromised so often that it dilutes our ability to call out society's moral shortcomings. Yes, there is a slippery slope when it comes to holding high moral standards. Some slip down the slope leading to intolerance and vindictiveness. But others slide into acquiescence, into a world with no moral standards at all. I realize that my concerns regarding sports betting reflect the positions of those found on a side of the political spectrum where I don't usually dwell. But I don't feel this should be a partisan issue. It's not an all-or-nothing thing. Sports betting is here to stay. But it needs to be checked and balanced by those few societal forces with the power to do so.


So what can religious groups do about it? For one thing, stop glorifying betting. Be a counterpoint. Be a pain in the neck to authorities and even to our own congregants. If we are promoting small-change gambling at our events, let's include disclaimers. Let's put out information for recovery support services on a table in the back. It might make us a little less "cool" but I'll take that exchange, if it will enable us to fulfill our obligation as a voice of an ancient tradition that promotes good health practices and moderation - and values taking care of our neighbors who have vulnerabilities.


But we also need to roll up our sleeves and take on some of the big boys, for the sake of those college kids at Michigan State and LSU who are about to lose their shirt.


The next time you see a new commercial involving any of the Mannings - even Cooper - just turn it off. We need to pay attention to the growing dangers around us and deal ourselves in to a game with far higher stakes than a four sided Hanukkah top. When it comes to being a check on our society’s moral excesses, we should be relentless. We should never stop spinning that dreidel.


And one more thing. if you are ever offered a wager on the length of my sermons, always take the “over.”


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Parsha Packet Picks for Va-Yishlach

Why are there dots over this word in our Torah portion (and visible in every Torah scroll, as you can see here)? The word, from Genesis 33:4, is "And he kissed him," referring to Esau ending his blood feud with Jacob. Rashi comments: Dots are placed above the letters of this word, and a difference of opinion is expressed in the Baraitha of Sifré (בהעלותך) as to what these dots are intended to suggest: some explain the dotting as meaning that he did not kiss him with his whole heart, whereas R Simeon the son of Johai said: Is it not well-known that Esau hated Jacob? But at that moment his pity was really aroused and he kissed him with his whole heart. So was Esau's smooch a "true love's kiss" or a kiss of death? We don't know, but the question that arises from this is whether every kiss is a little bit of both? See more below in the packet, "Waging Peace."

What's in a (Jewish) Name? (and why we change them) - Exploring the significance of Jacob's name change to "Israel." Everyth8ng you ever wanted to know obout Jewish names. Plus a celebrity name change quiz.

Waging Peace: Jacob and Esau; Building a Shared Society, One Community at a Time - Excerpts from "Tractate Shalom" plus many quotes and commentaries on the importance of peace, in light of Jacob and Esau's reconciliation.

Genocide and the Imperative of a Jewish Response - Resources on Darfur, pain and genocide, in light of Rachel's suffering and her naming of Benjamin, "the son of my suffering."

Dina: Midrash and Legend - Ever since the publication of Anita Diamant's novel,"The Red Tent," there has been a fascination with Jacob's only daughter, Dina. While the biblical text objectifies her and portrays her primarily a victim, the rabbis depicted her as possessing many positive qualities. Dina was our first "#MeToo" case - and one of the saddest.

Human Rights Shabbat Packet - See how each of the 30 articles of the Declaration of Human Rights corresponds to Jewish values and sources. Additionally, see this Human Rights Shabbat packet prepared by Rabbis for Human Rights, filled with prayers, essays and divray Torah connecting this commemoration with Vayishlach.

Hebrew Front Page of the Week


  • The top headline speaks of the deal to give radical right leader Betzalel Smotrich authority over the territories. Bottom right celebrates a "Carnivale at the World Cup" (Brazil's victory) and last but not least, on the left side you see the horrific news that the price of Hanukkah sufganiot is going way up. "Not just the special fillings, but jelly too!" Now that's a crisis!
  • Time's 2022 PERSON OF THE YEAR VOLODYMYR ZELENSKY: Zelensky’s success as a wartime leader has relied on the fact that courage is contagious. It spread through Ukraine’s political leadership in the first days of the invasion, as everyone realized the President had stuck around. If that seems like a natural thing for a leader to do in a crisis, consider historical precedent. Only six months earlier, the President of Afghanistan, Ashraf Ghani—a far more experienced leader than Zelensky—fled his capital as Taliban forces approached. In 2014, one of Zelensky’s predecessors, Viktor Yanukovych, ran away from Kyiv as protesters closed in on his residence; he still lives in Russia today. Early in the Second World War, the leaders of Albania, Belgium, Czechoslovakia, Greece, Poland, the Netherlands, Norway, and Yugoslavia, among others, fled the advance of the German Wehrmacht and lived out the war in exile...That experience (as an improv actor) turned out to have its advantages. Zelensky was adaptable, trained not to lose his nerve under pressure. He knew how to read a crowd and react to its moods and expectations. Now his audience was the world. He was determined not to let them down. His decision to stay at the compound in the face of possible assassination set an example, making it more difficult for his underlings to cut and run.




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Saturday, December 3, 2022

TBE Bar/Bat Mitzvah Commentary: Jonah Shapiro on Vayetze - D’var Torah, Zoom Video and Screen Shots

Shabbat Shalom!

I was exploring my portion to see the connections between it and my life and I discovered something interesting.  The portion revolves around Jacob’s travels to his ancestral homeland and his success there in building a family, and in being a shepherd.  So, it turns out that the name Shapiro comes from the German word scharf, which means sheep!  Not only that, but one of the heroes of the story, Rachel – her name means “ewe,” or a female sheep.

There seems to be a message here for me.  For one thing, it may be why, since I was about four years old, I’ve always been great at making sheep sounds (demonstrate).  It also explains why I’m so popular at the Nature Center – and why I get all the animals so rowdy when I talk to them in their language.

But most of all, there’s a sense of wonder that you get from finding these hidden ancestral connections. 

It’s the same feeling of wonder that Jacob got when he had his famous dream at the beginning of the portion, with angels going up and down a ladder.  He woke up the next morning and said, “God was in this place - and I had no idea!  How awesome is this place!  This is a gateway to heaven!”

I get that feeling of amazement all the time, when I do my favorite activity, reading books. 

I’ve loved to read since a very young age, when I first picked up those PJ Library books sent by the Jewish community – or maybe it was when I first read “Captain Underpants.”  I loved reading so much that I took my love of literature to the next level -  I wrote a short story – and I was only about five at the time.  I think there was even a sheep in it!

My love of reading has only increased over time.  I love especially books that have mythology, science fiction, and fantasy.  So, lots of wonder.  In a way, the Bible qualifies as a pretty awesome book as well – it’s like the best of Harry Potter or Percy Jackson’s books, which I love.  And unlike Harry and Percy, the Bible is the story of my people.  It gives me all the basics of my history and teaches me the ways to go forward into the future.

I average about a book a week, even at a time when I have lots of schoolwork and Bar Mitzvah studies, I still find time to get to my reading.   I get all the other stuff done – usually – and then I’ll read for an hour or two.  OK so maybe there’s a little TV mixed in too – but reading is still number one.

Jews have always been known as the People of the Book.  In fact, we are right in the middle of Jewish Book Month – another coincidence that seems timed just perfectly for my Bar Mitzvah.

Oh, and by the way, Jacob, the hero of my portion, is described as a man who dwelled in tents – which commentators interpreted as meaning that he loved to read and in fact attended an academy of Torah study.  Which is pretty amazing, considering that there was no Torah yet to study. 

But reading has always been a big deal for Jews. As great writer and Holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel once said, “I do not recall a Jewish home without a book on the table.”

Books are so important, because they open up new worlds for us, worlds of amazement and wonder.

For my bar mitzvah, I chose numerous mitzvah projects, some close to home and others across the globe. I wanted to address different needs in different communities for children. The kippas many of you are wearing were knitted by women in Mbale, Uganda a poor and needy community.  My family heard about this great opportunity to purchase from them and the money spent helps the knitters take care of their families.  To further support their community, I also decided to raise money so we can send hygiene products for girls who are in school in this community. The girls are struggling to go to school since they don’t have the basic needs they should have. Without these simple necessities, the girls can’t go to school, and some get pregnant and never have an opportunity to finish school and escape poverty. All people should have an equal opportunity to be educated.

Closer to home I recently visited David’s Toy Closet at Stamford Hospital. My family and I brought bags of new toys for the closet where kids are able to pick something they like to help brighten their day. This was in memory of my friend Emmet, who I remember visiting at Boston Childrens hospital and wish he was here with us today.

Lastly, there is a local organization called Filling in the Blanks which helps hungry children. It is important to me since children in our own community are food insecure and for various reasons their families don’t make enough money to provide sufficient food. The organization packs weekend food bags to hand out at schools across our county for children at risk of weekend hunger. I have volunteered there myself, packing meals, and plan to do more to support this meaningful local organization in the future too.












Thursday, December 1, 2022

In This Moment: November 29, 75 Years On

The Shabbat Announcements are sponsored

by Danielle and Lael Shapiro in honor of their son,

Jonah, becoming a Bar Mitzvah.


In This Moment

Shabbat Shalom!


Mazal tov to Jonah Shapiro, who becomes Bar Mitzvah this Shabbat. Click here for the dvar Torah and video of our prior Bat Mitzvah, Sarah Gilbert.


I hope you had a nice holiday. We now plow ahead into the month of December, but before leaving November behind, we should note one important anniversary that passed this week. November 29 marked the 75th anniversary of the U.N. partition vote that paved the way for the birth of the State of Israel the following May. You can see Yediot's headline from Tuesday marking the anniversary (see full-size pdf here). In the blue and white it says, "Celebrating the historic date - 75 years for November 29." The date is so famous it needs no further explanation and in fact you'll find a street named for "Kaf-Tet (29) November" in Jerusalem. See on the left side of the front page Yediot's front page from Nov. 30, 1947, with the bold headline, "Hebrew (Jewish) State1 - 33 voted in favor, 13 opposed, 10 abstained." Below is that tally sheet in English, signed by Jewish leaders present. Click on it to see a packet detailing what led up to that dramatic vote and see part of how that drama unfolded just below the tally.

You can follow the six-month path from partition to statehood in this documentary. We need to learn more about November 29 and to recall these headlines because unfortunately the headlines out of Israel have been far more foreboding recently. With an increase in violence and the new government looking more xenophobic by the day, we're seeing headlines like:







  • Meir Kahane's "love and hate of his fellow Jews" Yossi Klein Halevi on what the election of a Kahanist might mean (podcast and transcript) - I used to make a distinction between what I would call the good Kahane and the bad Kahane. The good Kahane was the American Kahane, the Jewish Defense League, and it was all for the sake of protecting Jewish lives. And then there was the bad Kahane, who moved to Israel and became an apocalyptic racist, created his own insane version of Judaism. He was a kind of theologian who placed vengeance and hatred at the center of his theology. And Kahane moved from being a political ideologist to being a radical theologian. And so that was a bad Kahane. But the truth is that I see a direct link between the two Kahanes, and that was a man for whom any means was justified if you felt that your end was justified, whether it was using random violence, risking the lives of civilians, or whether it meant abandoning your own followers. And so, there was in Kahane and at the heart of what we call today Kahanism, a deeply immoral contempt for restraint for the norms that really are essential to a decent society. And I came to fear Meir Kahane and what he unleashed and what he was empowering in all of us, in me, validating rage and hatred, violence, and turning that into the litmus test for being a good Jew.


  • Who Is a Jew? If Israel’s Next Government Has Its Way, Not These People - (I share this article in its entirety at the bottom of this email because it impacts many in our congregation). Tens or perhaps even hundreds of thousands of Israelis have established roots in the country thanks to the “grandchild clause” in the Law of Return. Millions more stand to lose that right if the religious parties have their way. But they would not be the only victims of the proposed revisions to the Law of Return. Jews of choice would also lose out if they were converted by rabbis from the “wrong” (non-Orthodox) movements.

This is scary stuff, which must be taken seriously. This is a "Ford to N.Y., Drop Dead" moment, only Bibi is playing the role of Ford and American Jews are New York.


So it is good for us to look back at November 29, 1947, 75 years ago this week, and to learn this important lesson from it: The partition vote was headed for failure, but for some concerted last minute diplomacy. It was hard, real-world horse trading that got the job done, and an unshakable belief in the worthiness of their project. We need that now as well. Now is not the time to give up on Israel, but neither is it the time to be silent if we are concerned about the direction Israel is taking, or more accurately, the cliff it is veering toward. No less than Avigdor Liberman, hardly a friend of American Jewry, is pleading with us to make our voices heard.


That means activism... What we say matters.


Next week, I'll be attending (remotely) J-Street's National Conference. I've been a member of their rabbinic and cantorial cabinet (along with over 1,000 othersincluding four - count 'em four - Hammermans) for many years. If you look at the principles I've signed onto, they are hardly controversial. While I don't agree with some of J-Street's tactics and positions, I'm proud that we hosted Jeremy Ben Ami, J-Street' s leader, at a time when few synagogues were opening their doors to him (granted, the panel also included Alan Dershowitz - such pleasant memories of a dramatic night. You can watch the video and see for yourself).


There was a time, not long ago, when politicians and clergy were expected by some Jewish establishment leaders to avoid all mention of J-Street. In 2014 the Conference of Presidents of Major Jewish Organizations decided to exclude them from the group. J-Street did not do itself any favors by opening itself up at times to voices representing extreme views, even if for the sake of honest dialogue. Although J-Street opposes BDS, I think their nuanced position lends itself to dangerous loopholes. Still, while my vision of a final status agreement might be somewhat to the right of theirs, in this case nuance is helpful, as it lends to fluidity and creative initiatives. There are new facts on the ground that need to be accounted for, principally the Abraham Accords. Let’s see how they account for them.


Often in the past, J-Street conferences have veered sharply to the left, just as AIPAC has veered to the right, but this year, with plenary topics like "Defending Our Democratic Values," the speakers list could not be more mainstream: Ruth Messinger, Rep. Jamie Raskin, Sen. Chris Von Hollen, writer Yossi Klein Halevi, singer Ahinoam Nini, and a host of respected rabbis and journalists will be appearing next week. Oh, and Secretary of State Blinken will appear.


The point is not that suddenly I feel compelled to tap into a J-Street conference. The point is that American Jewry is turning a corner right now, guided by those who love Israel so much that they will no longer be cowed into silence. And Israel's existential purpose as a safe harbor for the Jewish people has never felt so relevant, particularly in Russia and Ukraine - and right here in America. A former U.S. president just had dinner with two of the most vile, radical antisemites in this country. We are seeing emboldened neo-Nazis everywhere we turn, a dramatic rise in antisemitic acts primarily from that extreme right fringe, and with all this going on, Israel is signaling that it is about to metaphorically tell the vast majority of American, Ukrainian and Russian Jews to “drop dead.”


Two men were arrested in NYC last week with the intent of attacking a synagogue. One was wearing a Nazi armband, which makes me suspect that he wasn't coming from a BDS meeting to explore the fine points of intersectionality.


J Street won't stop Nazis, but anytime I can find a gathering of people who are moderate, who care about Jewish values like the love of neighbor, and who happen to love Israel to boot, sign me up.


Seventy five years ago this week, some brazen diplomats took matters into their own hands. The question for us now: What else can we do?

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Three Favorite Parsha Packet Picks for Va-Yetze

Rock and Roll is Here to Stay - An exploration of the symbolism of the rock (that Jacob rolls) in Vayetze as well as Plymouth Rock and other famous foundation stones.


Also see these all-time Va-Yetze packets: The "Happy Holidays" Brouhaha and Jewish Law; a special packet for Human Rights Shabbat (Human Rights Day is Dec. 10) and last but not least, Jacob, Rachel, Laban...and Borat

Homeland and Diaspora: Then and Now : A Tale of Comings, Goings and Household Idols: How Israel (Jacob) became the first to leave Israel (the land) And the first to return. How his family assimilated into a “foreign” culture while maintaining their distinctiveness And what happens to Jews - and Israelis– here in America.

Parashat Va-Yetze: The Greatest (Soap Opera)_ Story Ever Told - With more tears than a season of "General Hospital." More deception than a decade of "Dallas." More kisses and embracing than "Sex in the City." And more kids than "The Waltons." As Jacob returns to the Old Country (The O.C.)... Featuring Jacob, Rachel, Leah and Laban...and one family's struggle for power and wholeness. And...how could Jacob not have known it was Leah? Or did he? See 18 possible explanations for the Jacob - Leah wedding night fiasco.

  • How COVID-19 Restrictions Affected Religious Groups Around the World in 2020 (Pew) Further evidence that religion tends to be more often the problem than the solution. And who does everyone gang up on to blame for a pandemic? Three guesses. The sources reported 39 countries (20% of the total number studied) in which private individuals or organizations linked the spread of the coronavirus to religious groups in 2020. This includes individuals or organizations that used hostile or inflammatory speech about particular religious groups. In more than half of these countries (23 out of the 39), such comments were made against Jews. In France, social media users shared antisemitic tropes with caricatures of a former Jewish health minister that depicted her poisoning a well – an insinuation that Jews were responsible for the pandemic. (This trope dates back to the 14th century, when Jews were accused of spreading the Black Plague by poisoning food and wells, and they were the victims of mass killings.) In the United Kingdom in 2020, antisemitic conspiracy theories spread online, claiming that Jews were in control of the global lockdowns and were using the pandemic to “steal everything.” In Morocco, a man was arrested for social media posts in which he accused a Jewish citizen and a foreign national of infecting many people with COVID-19.


So Spielberg wanted out and Michelle Williams wants in. Go figure!



  • Interfaith Marriage and Conservative Judaism (Rabbi Barry Leff) - A few years ago a Conservative rabbi was expelled for officiating at an intermarriage and writing about it in a Jewish newspaper. Several rabbis, including Rabbi Lewittes, have resigned from the Rabbinical Assembly, the association of Conservative rabbis, over this issue. Despite the harsh penalty, I’m sure there are Conservative rabbis who officiate at interfaith weddings, they just don’t go advertising it to the world. It is, of course, possible for rabbis to change the rule. We have changed many other rules that were in place for thousands of years, for example counting women in a minyan, or allowing women to serve as rabbis and as witnesses on Jewish legal documents, or conducting same sex weddings. The question is “should we?” I think there are two sides to that question. 1) Is it good for the Jews?; 2) Is it compelling enough to overturn two millennia of custom?







  • To Err is Human; to Disagree, Jewish (Sapir Journal) - We live in a time when words are called violence and differences of opinion are seen by one side as evidence of the moral degeneracy of the other. The wheel of inclusion has turned to exclusion, reminding us of the double meaning of “revolution.” The revolution of exclusion is here. The Jewish tradition powerfully addresses this dynamic. It teaches us how we can grow past and heal the cleavages rending our culture.


  • What the U.S. can learn from Germany about grappling with dark parts of its history (NPR) - See also MONUMENTS TO THE UNTHINKABLE: America still can’t figure out how to memorialize the sins of our history. What can we learn from Germany? (Atlantic) Those are "stolpersteine," or "stumbling stones," which were first created by artist Gunter Demnig — whose father was a German soldier in World War II — in the 1990s and now number roughly 90,000 across 30 European countries. They are placed in front of the former homes of Holocaust victims and bear their names, birthdays, deportation date and the date and location of their death."It kind of catches you off guard ... The gleam of the sun sort of shines off of it, and you go look, and you look at it and then you look up at the house that it's sitting in front of, and it's this profound sense of intimacy," Smith says. "There is a constant set of reminders throughout Germany of what was done there." Importantly, Smith says, monuments and museums are not a panacea. The fact that Germany has them does not make it immune to those who would attempt to deny the past, he adds: The country is dealing with its own segment of right-wing extremist and neo-Nazi groups. "And so it's not fully protected from that simply because it puts memorials down," he explains. "But I think there is still something to be said for how ubiquitous and and omnipresent they are in that space, and how, for so many millions of people, they wake up and are encountering, on large scales and on tiny, intimate, singular scales, reminders of what was done — and what was done not that long ago."
  
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