Thursday, December 10, 2020

In This Moment: A Very Different Hanukkah; Lighting with the Mayor; Raters of the Lost Menorah

 




In This Moment
 Shabbat-O-Gram, December 11, 2020

Mazal tov to Aaron Friedman on his becoming Bar Mitzvah this Shabbat morning. This Shabbat-O-Gram is sponsored in Aaron's honor by his parents Rachel and Keith Friedman
 
 
 

Screen grab from last week's Bar Mitzvah of Alex Cohen 

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Just couldn't resist including this photo of a wide variety of fresh sufganiot from everyone's favorite Jerusalem pastry shop, Marzipan in Mahane Yehuda, from Monday's JPost.
 

And for those really desperate for these mouth-watering delicacies, check out the five top places to get sufganiot in Jerusalem.  I can't include those photos here because they might drive your taste buds to madness.  Or you could make sufgis at home, by purchasing a new sufgania cook book by Jerusalem's famous Kadosh Cafe.

If you get the impression that there is nothing like Hanukkah in Israel, you're right.  But Hanukkah's obsession with oil has brought about greasy delights all over the world. Click here to find eight Jewish fried foods that span the globe, one for each night.

Speaking of Hanukkah in Israel, take a journey across time this coming Sunday at 11, to the places made famous by that most Hellenized of ancient Judean tyrants, King Herod. Visit Masada, Caesarea and Herodian with guide Peter Abelow, who will top things off with a special celebration of Hanukkah through the ages. Go here to participate on Zoom.  Passcode: 940017
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Shabbat Shalom and Happy Hanukkah!



Join us each night for candle lighting, along with a different special feature each evening.  See the full schedule and Zoom links on this flyer. 

This evening we lit the first candle with Mayor David Martin, and it was such a lovely ceremony, made even more special by the urgency of the moment.  Watch the video below.

Hanukkah Lighting With Stamford Mayor David Martin, Dec. 10 2010
Hanukkah Lighting with Mayor David Martin

Mazal tov to Aaron Friedman and family, as Aaron becomes Bar Mitzvah this Shabbat morning.  He's the first one of the new 7th grade to be doing so.  It's so nice for the chain to continue, year after year, rain, shine or pandemic.  The continuity is so reassuring.

In the midst of the pandemic, we also are refocusing on social justice issues. Next Tuesday, join us for part two of my dialogue series with Rev. Dr. Michael Christie, "The Jewish and Christian Roots of Racism and Inclusion" on Zoom.  Check our Temple Announcements for the links.  You can find the Zoom recording and source materials from the first session here.   But you don't need to have been at the first session in order to benefit from the second.  And this session will feature Rev Christie and some Christian clergy guests he is inviting, so I especially hope we will have a large representation from our congregation.

In Memoriam: Vegas Trell



I don't usually feature memorials to dogs in this space, especially during a week when our country has been bearing an inconceivable loss of human life.  But Vegas Trell was one special pup; he was known to so many dogs and children throughout the community.  The photo above was taken in 2015, when we did a "Blessing of the Animals" honoring our dog Crosby's Bark Mitzvah.  Crosby was a good boy, but his fellow standard Vegas was the true star that day, definitely the best in show.  For weeks after, I would tell my dogs, "Why can't you be more like Vegas?" while Vegas continued to make every day special for so many children, especially at the JCC's Jump Start program. Vegas knew everyone, he was so open and friendly.  Our condolences to Gail and Steve.  May his memory be for a blessing.

And with 


Raters of the Lost Menorahs

Every menorah tells a story.  That's why it's my favorite Jewish ritual object, bar none.  You can decorate a Sukkah to perfection and find a lovely seder plate or kiddush cup, and each shofar carries with it the mystery of a thousand bleats, honks and baas.  But a menorah can express your personal tastes and beliefs in just about any manner you want, while at the same time amplifying a call that resonates though the ages: "Not by might, not by power, but by My spirit, says the Lord of hosts."

During this year of Covid, through the miracle of Zoom we've seen the insides of more homes than Elijah the Prophet.  A Twitter account, Room Rater, was created to evaluate the trendiness of celebrities' Zoom and Skype backgrounds, their books, floral displays, framed art and, lots of plaques and trophies.

But sometimes there is a menorah, and every menorah tells a story.  

You can learn a lot about a person by the candelabra they keep.

Last night I was watching an interview featuring Josh Shapiro, lieutenant governor of Pennsylvania, who has been very visible lately (for reasons too abhorrent to discuss here).



My Room Rater vision detected immediately something over his left shoulder...

 

Yes, it's a Ruth Bader Ginsburg Hanukkah menorah.  What a perfect tribute to the woman who embodied the spirit of this holiday, and who is so missed right now.  Room Rater would surely have given it a perfect score, even if the clock next to Ruth seems to be about 6 hours off.

Inspired by this, I checked out some other menorahs on Twitter.  Here's one for dog lovers.

 
And if you are a cat person...

 

The next one can double as a menorah and packing ice for the Pfizer vaccine:



I don't recommend lighting this one.

  

If Room Rater had existed back in 1932, this one would have taken the "Profiles in Courage" Award.



And in 1945, so would this:


As I said, every menorah tells a story.


The Hanukkah menorah that Mara and I have used since the year we were married has journeyed with our family across the globe. You can see photos of it here, as it was lit in our apartment in Jerusalem, just a few months after we were married. Notice how I look younger and she looks the same.



We purchased the menorah from a small art gallery in the Old City's Jewish quarter. 'Twas the day before Hanukkah and we needed something to light that night. We passed by all the typical ones, the traditional brass, the modernistic glass, the Zionist replicas of the Menorah outside the Knesset.

None of the menorahs we saw were what we were looking for. Until we came across this shop and immediately, we both knew - this was the one for us. Why did we love it so much?

It's made of Jerusalem stone. This of course made it a pain-in-the-Knesset to move around (and my mother in law was the one who schlepped it home for us in her carry-on - which has in itself become a family legend over the years). But wherever we lived, we felt we would be carrying a piece of Jerusalem with us. Literally! We owned a piece of the rock.

- The stone is carved out in a grid pattern, reminiscent of the Western Wall. But this is no kitschy Kotel scene that you will find in trinket stores. This was a one of a kind, gently carved slab of marble, which may, who knows, have been part of the temple itself once upon a time. You have to understand, one of the more remarkable things about Jerusalem is that when the Romans destroyed the temple, the debris was too heavy to be moved very far. Much was simply tossed into the valley beneath. Entire pillars found their way into the upper city, which is now the Jewish quarter. I saw a bunch of kids creatively use one as a soccer goal. Every pebble in that area could well have come from the holy of holies. Every stone is holy. And each one tells a story. As the popular Israeli song about the Kotel states: Some people have hearts of stone; some stones have the heart of people. These stones cry. When wax drips down, it looks like the menorah itself is crying human tears.

The menorah is not perfect. It slopes a little and the the little holes for the candles (or oil dispenser, which we used at first), are not symmetrically aligned.

- The Jewish star and olive branches speak less of Maccabean militarism than of the miraculous 
enduring hope that lights up our darkest moments - a hope that represents the most eternal victory of our indestructible people.

- This menorah, deeply rooted in our holy city, like us, has also accompanied us on our family's journey. As our lifelong companion (and in many ways, our first child, even predating Maggie, the dog), it faithfully waits all year on the floor of our upstairs closet for me to lift it (with a more audible "oy" each year) and carry it downstairs, where it awaits its first glance at us and the boys. And this menorah has seen them grow, year by year 


This year the menorah will not be able to look upon our whole family, as the virus has driven us apart.  But in a world where everything changes, this slab of Jerusalem has become, quite literally, our rock, one the few constants in a crazy world.

How fitting that we chose this simple, earth toned, unbalanced shining half-moon with which to share the light of our miracles with the world.

It lights up any room it enters.  That, in my book, rates it a clear ten.

Here are some Hanukkah links from MyJewish Learning:



Shabbat Shalom and a Joyous Hanukkah

Rabbi Joshua Hammerman



Video and sources for the two-part seminar: "Judaism, Christianity and the Biblical Roots of Racism," led by Rabbi Joshua Hammerman and Rev. Dr. Michael Christie


Part One: Jewish Sources on Racism and Inclusivity  


 Part Two: Christian Sources and Dialogue



Source Materials for Part One










Curse of Ham




Moshe Ibn Ezra



Special thanks to Rabbi Chaim Seidler-Feller and the Shalom Hartman Institute  


Sources for Part Two






Select parts of the holy Bible, for the use of slaves (see below how the text goes right from the Joseph story to the Ten Commandments narrative, completely "passing over" the first 18 chapters of Exodus, and the escape from slavery in Egypt).














Wednesday, December 9, 2020

‘A glimmer of light’: CT Jewish leaders say Hanukkah more needed than ever (CT Hearst Newspapers)

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‘A glimmer of light’: CT Jewish leaders say Hanukkah more needed than ever

Nine months into the COVID-19 pandemic, leaders in Connecticut’s Jewish community say the themes of Hanukkah, which starts at sundown Thursday, are more relevant than ever.

In part, the holiday is about the “miracle of the light,” said Rabbi Brian Immerman of Congregation Mishkan Israel in Hamden.

“More than ever, we need the hope … light gives us, and we need that to last longer than eight days,” he said. “We need it to last six, seven, eight months, until we’re all vaccinated.”

The “miracle of the light” references the story of a menorah at a temple in Jerusalem that remained lit for eight days on oil that should have lasted only for one.

“Hanukkah is all about the miracle of the little oil that lasted longer than it should have. For this year, that really, really speaks to me,” said Cantor Penny Kessler of the United Jewish Center of Danbury. “This has been a very difficult year. … We’ve really been looking for hope, we’ve been looking for just a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.”

For some, a “deep and debilitating” depression has set in this year, said Rabbi Yehoshua Hecht, who leads the Beth Israel Chabad of Westport/Norwalk.

“We’ve never faced such an overwhelming, all-encompassing challenge,” he said. “We have to gain our inner strength from the light. The message of Hanukkah today is much more relevant today than it was last year.”

The meanings of Hanukkah

The origin and themes of Hanukkah are more complex than the story of the long-lasting oil.

The holiday goes back to the second century B.C.E., when a Jewish family now known as the Maccabees led a rebellion in Jerusalem against the powerful Syrian Greek military, according to Kessler.

Antiochus Epiphanes IV, their ruler, had outlawed the practice of Judaism and taken over the Temple in Jerusalem, she said.

The Maccabees eventually prevailed, reclaiming the Temple and holding an eight-day dedication of it, she continued.

(Hanukkah means “dedication” in Hebrew.)

“Notwithstanding the overwhelming odds against them, they did not lose their faith, they did not lose their hope,” Hecht said of the Maccabees.

To another theme of the holiday: “standing up for what we believe in,” as Immerman put it.

This year, it’s critical “to recognize that there are people who are continuing to suffer,” he said. “We really have a responsibility to stand up and take care of our community.”

According to Kessler, the story of the long-lasting oil did not come to be until some 600 years after the revolt, when the rabbis of the Talmud began discussing Hanukkah.

“(T)hey were unhappy with the idea of a Jewish holiday based solely on a military victory,” she wrote in an email. “So they developed the story of a tiny jar of oil that kept the candles in the Temple menorah lit for eight days when the oil should have burned out within 24 hours.”

How folks are celebrating

Hanukkah is not just especially relevant during a dark time, but its home-based rituals make it easier to celebrate in a pandemic than many other holidays, according to Rabbi Joshua Hammerman of Temple Beth El in Stamford.

“Because Hanukkah is so focused on overcoming supreme challenges and finding light in the midst of challenges, it’s perfectly situated to help us confront the challenges of now nine months of COVID. We know that better days are ahead,” he said. “And also because it’s so home-centric, it’s one holiday that can be celebrated without much change necessary to the normal practice.”

The menorah, for example, typically is lit at home.

And for some congregations, synagogues have gotten creative amid the pandemic and created new opportunities to celebrate.

Temple Beth El will hold a menorah-lighting over Zoom.

“We’ll be celebrating primarily remotely,” Hammerman said. “But that gives the opportunity for people to show their own menorahs on the Zoom screen.”

For the first time, according to Hammerman, there could be dozens of menorahs lined up on the screen.

Of course, some traditions will change.

Normally, Temple Beth El lights a menorah in the mayor’s office on the first night of Hanukkah, Hammerman said

They are forgoing the tradition this year because of COVID, according to the rabbi, who said a virtual lighting with Mayor David Martin will take its place.

Most years during Hanukkah, the congregation also holds a big dinner on the Sabbath, Hammerman said, but this year the synagogue instead will hold an outdoor tailgate party.

Hecht said the holiday may be difficult for grandparents who are used to seeing their families but may not feel safe gathering.

But still, the faithful will be celebrating.

The synagogue will hold a socially-distanced outdoor menorah lighting at Norwalk City Hall, slated to take place Thursday at 5 p.m. A lighting there has been taking place for the past couple of years, Hecht said.

While they will not be able to give out latkes due to the pandemic, Hecht said, they will be distributing dreidels, Hanukkah cookies and more.

Meanwhile, Congregation Mishkan Israel in Hamden has for the first time constructed a large outdoor menorah, where it is safer to gather. Folks will attend a lighting each night of Hanukkah, Immerman said.

Everyone will be invited to join on some nights, while other nights will be designated for groups of people who may only be comfortable in limited numbers, he said.

A nearby congregation, the Chabad Jewish Center of Hamden, will hold a drive-in menorah lighting at 4:30 p.m. Sunday, according to a release. The event, set to take place at Hamden Marketplace, will feature a laser light show.

meghan.friedmann@hearstmediact.com

https://www.ctinsider.com/living/stamfordadvocate/article/A-glimmer-of-light-CT-Jewish-leaders-say-15789613.php