Author of the upcoming book, Mensch•Marks: Life lessons of a Human Rabbi - Wisdom for Untethered Times (#1 Amazon Best Seller in Judaism). Winner of the Rockower Award, the highest honor in Jewish journalism and 2018 Religion News Association Award for Excellence in Commentary. Musings of a rabbi, journalist, father, husband, poodle-owner, Red Sox fan and self-proclaimed mensch, taken from essays, columns, sermons and thin air. Writes regularly in the New York Jewish Week and Times of Israel.
Shabbat Shalom, as we begin to slow down, with many people already away (including Cantor Fishman), but things continue to hop at TBE. We are open for business every day, all year round - which means that if you are around town, c'mon down! We are especially in need of support re. our morning minyan lately. A special mazal tov to Jordana Raich and her family, who leave for Israel shortly. Jordana will become Bat Mitzvah there. Note that the Shabbat-O-Gram takes an official hiatus over the summer. Email communication from me will continue to take place on an "as needed" basis, along with Facebook posts and Tweets.
As Mideast peace prospects have faltered, Jewish and pro-Israel college students have faced increasing challenges and attacks from Israel's detractors on campus. From Israel Apartheid week, where students are harassed at Israeli checkpoints, to the college classroom, where some professors present intellectually unbalanced views of Israel, many young people find themselves on the front lines of the Arab-Israeli conflict in America, struggling to win the battle for public opinion. Whether you are a college student, you have children in college or preparing to go to college, you need to understand what young people will face on campus and how they can be prepared. Linda Scherzer is an award-winning, former Middle East correspondent for CNN who for the last 13 years has been training top high school students to become informed and confident advocates for Israel when they get to college. Through her experience as an educator, communicator and PR expert, she will analyze today's campus dynamics and empower our community to stand up confidently and make Israel's case on campus.
Linda will also take extra time to speak with those students who wish to remain here after her presentation and the service.
A reminder that tonight's service begins at 7 PM. Beginning NEXT WEEK, we shift to the old-new time of 7:30. Shabbat morning will remain at 9:30. NEXT WEEK's services, Friday night and Shabbat morning, will be outdoors, weather permitting.
Forgiveness: the Best Revenge
On a day when the headlines scream of innocents being brutalized throughout the world and of a revered pastor being buried in South Carolina, at the same time we see signs, here in America, at least, that society has become more inclusive and caring. This week's landmark rulings by the Supreme Court have only intensified that sense, including today's approving same-sex marriage nationally.
I attended a local vigil this week for Charleston victims, with people representing several different faiths coming together in shared sadness and love. Nothing that comes as a result of such madness can ever be called good, but the fact that this tragedy has brought communities closer is one positive that can't be denied.
I've always had trouble with the idea of forgiving someone who does a heinous act, especially when that person is so filled with hate. Turning the other cheek is not a Jewish thing - we forgive, but not instinctively, and especially when the act is so evil. Still, a speech at the community vigil by Inni Kaur, a representative of the local Sikh community, helped me to understand what this is about, as she reflected on her own faith group's experiences.
It should be noted that the Sikh community suffered a similar massacre, at a temple in Oak Creek, Wisconsin in 2012. Unfortunately, no religious group is immune to such attacks. Among the most appalling recently was the shooting at the Jerusalem synagogue in late 2014.
Mosques too are often attacked, including today's massacre in Kuwait. In many cases, it is Muslims attacking Muslims, just as the Charleston attack involved a Christian attacking Christians. But whether the attacks are racially, ethnically, religiously or nationalistically motivated, attacks on houses of worship are simply unacceptable in a civilized society. And I also include the so-called Price Tag attacks by Israeli Jews against mosques and churches in Israel and the West Bank, the most recent being the torching of a famous Galilee church (the place where the miracle of the loaves and fishes is said to have occurred) just last week. You can see the full list of Price Tag attacks here.
The image of people at prayer or study witnessing their sanctuary violated, having the pastoral serenity and love of neighbor represented by the prophet Balaam's vision of the "goodly tents of Jacob" being rendered instantaneously into a garish nightmare, is one that cuts across cultures.
Here is what my Sikh friend said, recalling Oak Creek, and how for the perpetrator there, "our turbans and brown skins were foreign and threatening."
"We forgive you," were the words that resounded in Oak Creek.
"I forgive you," said the daughter of one of the nine victims that were killed at the Church in Charleston.
But let us not make the mistake that their forgiveness is forgetting. Rather their forgiveness is freedom from hate.
In both cases, these acts were not random and they were not isolated. However, the way the families of the victims and their communities chose to respond, have raised our consciousness.
In Wisconsin, the community rallied together and preached love over hate, and even forgave the perpetrator of the violence. Similarly, the noble community of Charleston and the Emmanuel AME Church has humbled us with its compassion and its incredible acts of forgiveness.
We marvel at these communities' generosity and strength because it helps us draw some inspiration from such a tragedy. These communities' have shown us that: Faith helps endure any hardship, even the most unspeakable suffering. Faith does not mean we forget pain or grief. Faith means that we live free of hate.
These monumental acts of forgiveness compel each and every one of us to work towards ending the racial terror that exists in our country today; to find ways to look beyond the boundaries of race, color, ethnicity and see the Oneness in all.
So forgiving enemies is not about letting them off the hook - it's about telling them, loud and clear, that they have not succeeded in driving a wedge between groups. They have not succeeded in forcing us to hate.
The best "revenge" against the Charleston perpetrator (aside from not mentioning his name), is that he must be positively bristling to see how his act effectively accomplished what people had been unable to do for 150 years. He singlehandedly took the Confederate flag off the grounds of public buildings and off the shelves of Walmart. Imagine how he must be tortured to know that his act brought people together as never before. Perhaps the lowering of the stars and bars from state capitols, not just South Carolina, but even Alabama, could be a better deterrent for the next hate crime than any form of punishment.
This crazy young man accomplished in one evening what Martin Luther King could not accomplish in a lifetime, at least in regard to the removal of this symbol.
The removal, with bipartisan acclamation, of a great symbol of hate, and the Supreme Court's officially ending discrimination against a long-persecuted group: Not a bad week for the descendants of Selma, Stonewall, Seneca Falls - and Sinai.
For the first time I understand what it means to forgive one's enemy - and why forgiveness can be the best revenge of all.
Zero Hour Approaches With all that is happening this week, we can't forget that that next Tuesday might be the most important date of all. That's the deadline for an Iran agreement. Though an extension is always possible, I would hope that we'll have clarity by then as to what the Iranians are willing to agree to, and whether it goes far enough. One can only hope that, buoyed by his legacy achievements of this past week, President Obama will be far less invested in seeing this deal through, unless it is seen as a consensus "good deal" by a wide swath of those who understand the long and short term implications, including those five former advisors who sent up red flags this week. Dennis Ross, who spoke here a few years ago and has been highly trusted by the President himself, is among them. Stay tuned...