Tuesday, June 11, 2019

TBE Bar/Bat Mitzvah Commentary: Nathaniel Harrison on Shavuot


            Hag Samayach – happy Shavuot!

In today’s Torah portion, we read about how the Ten Commandments were given at Mount Sinai.  There is a tradition that the people heard God pronounce the first letter of the first word of the first commandment, and then they were terrified and asked Moses to interpret the rest.

The funny thing is that the first letter of the first word is an alef, which in Hebrew has no sound.  So what they heard was something beyond sound, something more real than what was actually spoken.

That’s the kind of deep listening I have learned to do; something that we all need to learn how to do.

For instance, if someone says “I’m fine” but if you really hear how they are saying those words, you know that that person is not really fine.

I’ve learned how to listen deeply in part from my brother Jewels.

Jewels and I have a very special relationship. He’s been there for my whole life so we can understand each other in ways that others can’t. Sometimes if he seems agitated, I can tell when he is interested or dismissive of a certain topic.  I know what makes him laugh.  (I also know how to tick him off).  He loves especially to laugh whenever I mess up at something, or when he’s enjoying something.  He loves walking in the woods, being outdoors and stimulating activities such roller coasters and high-speed elevators and trains.  We also love watching certain movies together, like “The Walk,” about the man who walked in between the Twin Towers.  He especially loves those final scenes when the walker is looking down on the view of New York City.

So you can see that we know each other really well.  But we communicate with very few words.

Jewels got me into music. Although many ask which of us I think is more talented musically, I give them the same answer – that I’d rather not compare myself with him.  In fact, music is a great vehicle for self-expression – it helps me to blow off steam or it gets me energized.  Suffice to say that we are not competitive about that – or anything.  Jewels is not a competitive person, and I never feel upstaged by him – which is a good thing, because he’s playing later on.

Also, in learning how to listen deeply, to hear beyond what’s being said, I’ve discovered how to better understand that what people say isn’t always what they mean, especially in today’s word.  There’s so much slang, there are emojis and texting and social media, which makes it easier to say things carelessly and often anonymously.  People often don’t understand what they are really saying, and how it can be hurtful.

Sometimes, people have said mean things to me, but I am able to let insults pretty much roll off my shoulder.  I understand that they are frustrated and need to feel better about themselves.  This is especially true in hockey, which is something I really enjoy – so I don’t let others’ frustrations ruin it for me.  I understand that some people have trouble dealing with people who are different from them.

Earlier this year, my hockey team – which is very diverse – had to deal with another team that made racist comments toward me and a few of my teammates.  When this happened, we ignored it and kept playing our game to the best of our abilities. 

So you can see why for me words matter – but what matters even more is to understand what’s really being communicated, even beyond the words.  And that’s one of the big lessons that the Ten Commandments are trying to teach us.

For my mitzvah project, I’ve been helping kids with special needs to develop their tennis skills, in coordination with coaches from Special Olympics.  I also did a few musical fundraisers with Jewels for organizations such as the New Canaan Food Bank.

Thursday, June 6, 2019

Shabbat-O-Gram for June 7: The Book of Ruth, c.1938; The Most Radical Jewish Holiday; AJC @ TBE, TBE @ AJC

Shabbat-O-Gram

The Shabbat-O-Gram  
is sponsored by 

Mary and David Harrison in honor of their son,
Nathaniel, becoming a Bar Mitzvah



Part of the large delegation from Westchester /Fairfield at the AJC Global Forum this week


  
TBE set "hope in motion" this week on behalf of Bennett Cancer Center.




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Shabbat Shalom!

Mazal tov to Nathaniel Harrison, who becomes Bar Mitzvah on Sunday, the first day of Shavuot. And click here to read last week's dvar Torah by Lexi Handel. 

So much happening this week!  Join us for Kabbalat Shabbat on Friday evening, and Sisterhood Shabbat on Sat. morning. Then comes Shavuot, with services, blintzes, cheesecake and other goodies on Sunday and Monday mornings.  On Saturday evening at 8:00 PM we'll join with Temple Sinai (here) to welcome the festival with a Tikkun Leyl Shavuot - a session of study, meditation and song.  The cantors and rabbis of the two congregations will lead a conversation on Cultivating Kindness.   As we focus on the middot (Divine Ethical Qualities) of patience, equanimity, fear and humility; nurturing the better angels of our nature, we'll join hands with our neighbors. Cheesecake included!

For a sneak preview, here are three tips to practice equanimity, and here is a practice for when you lose patience.  Interested in cultivating humility? Click here.  And click here for fear.

Then, next week brings the annual Cantor's Concert and the music of Barbra Streisand. This will also give us a chance to say goodbye to Cantor Fishman and her family and to wish them well - we'll also have a chance to do that on Friday, at a wine and cheese reception before services.  And at the concert, we'll also be honoring Sylvan and Honni Pomerantz for their many years of service to our congregation and Jewish community.


What is Shavuot?

Shavuot, was an agricultural holiday in the Torah that later on came to be associated with the giving of the Torah at Sinai.  These days, most Jews are unfamiliar with Shavuot altogether, as it gets the least attention of all Jewish festivals (here's a funny, quick primer, "The Idiots Guide to Shavuot").
For more - see my blog postingSubversive Shavuot: Our Most Radical Holiday
Also see:

AJC @ TBE, TBE @ AJC

This coming week, we will also be hosting the Annual Meeting of the Westchester / Fairfield region of the AJC, on Tuesday, June 12th at 7:30 p.m., at which TBE congregant Stephne Behrend will be installed as regional president.   Dr. Steven Bayme, Director of AJC's Department of Contemporary Jewish Life and the Koppelman Institute for American Jewish-Israeli Relations. Dr. Bayme will discuss current issues in the wake of the recent - and upcoming - Israeli elections and offer insight about the Trump peace plan. The event is open to the public, with a dessert reception to follow.  Click here to register.

I encourage our congregants to be here that night, to celebrate Stephne's election, to welcome guests from all over Westchester and Fairfield counties to our lovely sanctuary, and to hear Bayme, who is a terrific and knowledgeable speaker.

I joined a number of TBE congregants and the AJC Global Forum this week in Washington and came away duly impressed. I'll share a few reflections at services on Friday night, but many of my thoughts are echoed in the words of others who were there.  I asked those with TBE connections to share their thoughts, and I've collected them here.  

Just to give you a sampling: 
  • Stephne Behrend wrote: On important issue after issue, we heard insightful voices that presented all sides,  from Muslim and Jewish worlds, from Conservative to Liberal views and from different country perspectives. AJC is a centrist, nuanced organization and we listen carefully before forming an opinion. 
  • Barbara Friedman: the announcement by members of the House of Representatives of the establishment of a Jewish/Black caucus.  
  • Stan Friedman: The speakers and discussions were simply outstanding. But it was when seven Jews representing "Faces of the Diaspora," each walked on stage during the 2½-day program and related their individual stories in TED-like talks, that your pride as a Jew and your desire to fight against bigotry and anti-Semitism knew no bounds.  
  • Sari and Alan Jaffe mentioned that Steve Bayme, our speaker next week, "gave us a succinct history of anti-Semitism in the United States dating back to Peter Stuyvesant in 1654. I learned about anti-Semitic incidents in this country that I had never heard about, such as Jewish involvement in the white slave trade in the late 1800's which unleashed a tremendous amount of anti-Semitism and limitations on the amount of immigrants from Eastern Europe and Russia."
  • Beth Levick:  One highlight for me was listening to Bernice King, MLK's daughter, during our Community of Conscience event. The weather kept us from gathering at the Lincoln memorial - the intended venue. However, with the image of the memorial behind her Dr King spoke passionately and echoed the words of her father. She stated "Love is the only answer to mankind's problems."
  • Norman Stone: The speakers at their annual convention presented convincing arguments and ways of combating the poisonous effects of BDS, physical assaults on Jews, bigotry and  the hatred that has increased in recent years. 
  • Kerrin Behrend: I attended a luncheon involving a discussion between David Harris and Ron Dermer, Israel's Ambassador to the USA, where Ron gave an impassioned presentation about Israel's rise to be considered as a global power, particularly in the areas of technology and cybersecurity.  He showed how this has led to significantly enhanced relations with the community of nations, and predicted that one would begin to see a shift in the voting patterns on Israel-related resolutions in the UN.
  • Suzanne Stone: A young Jewish boy (I don't remember his name) growing up in Burma (Myanmar) complained to his father that there were hundreds  of Muslims and thousands of Buddhists but only a few Jews  (20). His father responded that it is not our numbers but our commitment that matters. After living and studying in the US he says that he feels more Jewish in Burma than NYC. If he doesn't attend Shabbat services no one knows but in Burma who will unlock the doors and open the gates etc. if he is not there.
  • Jerry Silber shared a favorite quote: A reason for Israel and Jews to participate in forums where we may not be in total agreement  is because:  "If you are not at the table you are on the menu."


Read about the "Community of Conscience" to combat hate and violent rhetoric.



Click here to access videos of many of the sessions - here are a few of my favorites:

Faces of the DIaspora - Sammy Samuels, Myanmar (Burma)
Faces of DIaspora - Sammy Samuels, Myanmar (Burma)


Faces of the DIaspora - Ambassador Houda Nonoo, Kingdom of Bahrain
Faces of the DIaspora - Ambassador Houda Nonoo, Kingdom of Bahrain


The
The "I" Word: Intersectionality and the Jewish Community


Some AJC Survey Snapshots


(PRNewsfoto/American Jewish Committee) 

(PRNewsfoto/American Jewish Committee) 

(PRNewsfoto/American Jewish Committee) 

 

 

 
For American Jews, religiosity is positively correlated with a favorable opinion of President Donald Trump. (Data from AJC; Laura E. Adkins for JTA)

Among U.S., French, and Israeli Jews there is large-scale agreement that being Jewish is mostly a matter of ethnicity and culture, with 59% of the American sample, 43% of the French and 51% of the Israelis agreeing. Roughly a quarter of respondents in each country-24% of the Americans, 25% of the French, and 24% of the Israeli-consider Jewish identity a matter of religion. And, 16% of American, 27% of French, and 23% Israeli Jews consider both identity factors equally. The surveys of Israeli and U.S. Jews show, for the second consecutive year, a glaring gap over U.S. President Donald Trump's handling of U.S.-Israel relations, with 79% of Israelis approving (48% "strongly") and just 10% disapproving (4% "strongly"). Only 37% of the Americans approve (22% "strongly") and 59% disapprove (45% "strongly"). In addition, while 50% of American Jews support the Trump administration's recognition of the Golan Heights as Israeli territory, 88% of Israeli Jews do. Overall, the U.S. survey showed a slippage in warmth toward Israel. In May 2018, 70% of American Jews agreed that "caring about Israel is a very important part of my being a Jew." That dropped to 62% this year, with the percentage strongly disagreeing rising from 9% to 15%.  



The Book of Ruth, c.1938

Since I'm sharing important surveys this week, let's look back at a survey from July 1938, when Americans were asked about allowing German, Austrian or other (code word for "Jewish") refugees to come to the United States.  (See it above) It's a little blurry, but the sentiment is clear: ONLY 5 (THAT'S FIVE) percent of Americans were willing to relax the severe restrictions to allow more Jews in.  Two thirds said "Hell no!" 

If you look at the full 1938 Fortune survey, you'll find this interesting commentary:   "So much, then, for the hospitality of our melting pot. (Again the Jews make a logical exception-only 18.4 per cent of them are for exclusion of the refugees, and the heaviest weight of their vote is for encouraging them to come here.)"  

OK, so in comparison to 67% Americans who wanted the doors barred, 18% is small.  But is it possible that back in 1938, nearly one in five American Jews actually advocated closing the doors to Jewish refugees?  Think about what that means.  ONE FIFTH of American Jews were either too afraid to advocate for the survival of their own extended relatives... or they had severed ties completely with them - and they willingly severed ties with Jewish values too, to the extent that they didn't hear the cry of the not-so-strange stranger. I wonder whether those numbers would have shifted had the question been phrased like this: What is your attitude toward allowing Jewish refugees into the US, given that one third of European Jewry will be annihilated within the next seven years? 

The heroine of Shavuot is Ruth, who was a refugee, an undocumented worker, a dreamer whose dreams of a better life were dashed by the death of her husband; yet she refused to leave the side of mother-in-law Naomi while wandering in a strange land; and in that land she was welcomed by her boss, Boaz, who eventually married her (we can leave post #MeToo office etiquette out of this for now), and the two of them became the great grandparents of King David.

See the article "Ruth was a Refugee."

  

Shabbat Shalom and Happy Shavuot!

Rabbi Joshua Hammerman

Wednesday, June 5, 2019

Reflections on AJC Global Forum 2019

Members of the Westchester-Fairfield delegation at the AJC Global Forum, June 2-4

STEPHNE BEHREND 
So many highlights and takeaways from another  fascinating and inspiring AJC Global Forum 2019   
  • I was both impressed and moved by the Community of Conscience event that took us back to the times and speeches of President Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr and President Truman and challenged us to reach out to and embrace the other, regardless of religion or race. The follow up was a historic announcement that members of the congressional house are setting up a bipartisan Black / Jewish caucus to stand together now as our leaders have historically stood together.  
  • I loved the series "Faces of the Diaspora" which featured participants' stories  from both large and small Jewish Diaspora communities and the challenges they face. Countries represented were France , UK, Venezuela, South Africa, Bahrain, Myanmar, and Iraq. Some were inspiring;  others reflected the frightening rise of anti-semitism or country specific turmoil.  
  • To balance the unending negative media reporting on Israel,   I found the interviews by AJC CEO David Harris  of Israeli Ambassador Ron Dermer and Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu so encouraging. 
  • Where else can you hear all the democratic presidential hopefuls address the issues of importance to our Jewish people. 
  • Finally on important issue after issue, we heard insightful voices that presented all sides,  from Muslim and Jewish worlds, from Conservative to Liberal views and from different country perspectives. AJC is a centrist, nuanced organization and we listen carefully before forming an opinion. 

I return each year from AJC Global Forum more educated, inspired and challenged to speak out and get involved. 

Stephne is being installed as president of the Westchester-Fairfield region on AJC here at Beth El next Wednesday evening.


BARBARA FRIEDMAN

For me, there were many conference elements that stood out.

Sunday evening - Community of Conscience.
• Dr. Kurt Graham’s recollections of the big role that President Harry Truman had in fighting for civil rights. I personally was not aware of this.
• reading of the statements contained in the Community of Conscience declaration - by representatives of so many faiths - indicating agreement by all.
• David Harris’ amazing speech - summarizing the statements and imploring the attendees to remember the golden rule as they approach the world’s problems and seek solutions.
(The whole program was beautiful - and it would have been amazing if we had been able to stand together at the Lincoln Memorial.) Also - • the announcement by members of the House of Representatives of the establishment of a Jewish/Black caucus.
• the presentation by former mayor of New Orleans Mitch Landrieu - sharing his pathway to deciding to take down statues in New Orleans.
********If I have to pick one thing - it is definitely David Harris’ speech. It set the tone for the rest of the conference.  He definitely has a way with words!!

It would be great if his speech could be shared with everyone. 


KERRIN BEHREND

I attended a luncheon involving a discussion between David Harris and Ron Dermer, Israel's Ambassador to the USA, where Ron gave an impassioned presentation about Israel's rise to be considered as a global power, particularly in the areas of technology and cybersecurity.  He showed how this has led to significantly enhanced relations with the community of nations, and predicted that one would begin to see a shift in the voting patterns on Israel-related resolutions in the UN.

Considering the Israeli-Palestinian situation, at one point he asked the audience of about 400 how many supported a two state solution. Almost everyone raised their hands. Then he asked ....
1. Who would allow the Palestinians to develop a military capability - No hands were raised.
2. Who would allow the Palestinians to control their airspace - Again no hands were raised.
3. Who would allow the Palestinians to control entry to their eastern border - Again no hands were raised !
He then explained that while Israel would support a self-governing territory for the Palestinians, there was no way that this would translate to a sovereign state in the accepted sense.



STAN FRIEDMAN
If AJC's objective at its 2019 Global Forum was to underscore the essential role it plays in advocating on issues facing world Jewry and Israel, and in promoting democratic values for all, it could not have done any better. The speakers and discussions were simply outstanding. But it was when seven Jews representing "Faces of the Diaspora," each walked on stage during the 2½-day program and related their individual stories in TED-like talks, that your pride as a Jew and your desire to fight against bigotry and anti-Semitism knew no bounds.


SARI JAFFE

The AJC Global Forum was a very impressive gathering.  The breadth of speakers was remarkable.  The audio-visual presentations were extremely well done.

My favorite session was the Max Fischer Annual Memorial Lecture given by Dr. Steven Bayme, the AJC Director of Jewish Life.  He gave us a succinct history of anti-Semitism in the United States dating back to Peter Stuyvesant in 1654. I learned about anti-Semitic incidents in this country that I had never heard about, such as Jewish involvement in the white slave trade in the late 1800's which unleashed a tremendous amount of anti-Semitism and limitations on the amount of immigrants from Eastern Europe and Russia. 

The most interesting parts of his lecture for me  were: 1. His explanation of FDR's hesitation to get the United States involved in WW II.  While he praised his leadership in bringing the country out of its isolationist position, he also criticized FDR for his failure to order the bombing of the concentration camps. 2. He explained how Jews entered a different era of acceptance in American society in the aftermath of WW II. Around 600,000 Jewish soldiers fought in WW II.  There were no specifically anti-Semitic reactions relating to the Rosenbergs' conviction and execution as Soviet spies, the killing spree of Son of Sam (Berkowitz), and other such Jewish related incidents in the post-war era. 3. His view of the current state of anti-Semitism in the USA.  We are now in different times as Jews. I wish I had taken notes!

Dr. Bayme spoke in our synagogue on the 100th anniversary of the signing of the Balfour Declaration and he will be speaking at Temple Beth El again on June 12, the evening of Stephne's installation as Chairman of the AJC Weschester/Fairfield section.


SUZANNE STONE

Below are some of my bullet points:

Key to AJC's success is building relationships. It's leadership and membership spend the majority of their time meeting with leaders and ambassadors of countries throughout the world. During these meetings they educate and advocate for Israel and Diaspora Jews.

Joan Ryan Member of GB's Parliament said "not only know what you are against but know what you are for". (Yale President Peter Salovey also said it, taking the words from the Commencement address by Kingman Brewster Jr. in 1978.).

In the past "Might makes Right" was rejected but today's youth think that "Might makes Wrong". One reason that American youth support Palestinians.

Reform and Conservative Judaism in Israel referred to as Rising Streams

Secular Israeli's care about security and the economy not whether women can pray at the Kotel etc.

Palestinians will not be given unlimited sovereignty. They can decide issues that effect them but only Israeli's can decide their issues of security etc.

US is Israel's most important ally.

Israel is a leader in security and technology.

Come to Israel and raise your voice. Don't raise your voice from a distance.

Israel should lead and help secure the safety of all Jews and address antisemitism. 

Ancient antisemitism = hate the Jews.  Today's antisemitism = hate Israel

Make peace with former enemies not current enemies. 

Iran brought Israel and its Arab neighbors together. It is a new Middle East today.

A young Jewish boy (I don't remember his name) growing up in Burma (Myanmar) complained to his father that there were hundreds  of Muslims and thousands of Buddhists but only a few Jews  (20). His father responded that it is not our numbers but our commitment that matters. After living and studying in the US he says that he feels more Jewish in Burma than NYC. If he doesn't attend Shabbat services no one knows but in Burma who will unlock the doors and open the gates etc. if he is not there.

Perhaps #1- Very special being surrounded by 2500 caring committed Jews.



ALAN JAFFE
I enjoyed the Forum, especially the session "Anti-Semitism in America Historically Considered, which was presented by Dr. Steven Bayme.  While I was somewhat familiar with each of the incidents of Anti-Semitism that Dr. Bayme discussed, I found that he gave details regarding each of them that I was not previously aware of, which made his presentation very insightful.  He was an excellent speaker with respect to both content and style.



JERRY SILBER
Some highlights are:
  • Arab countries don't want a democratic Israel because it threatens their dictatorship.
  •  There are some positive signs of among some Arab countries in regard to Israel such as two Moroccan radio stations beginning to broadcast information about their country's Jewish heritage and  2000 Jordanians work in Eilat with a waiting list of  200,000.  This, however, is tempered by the fact that in Morocco, social media is strongly anti-Israel and in Jordanian textbooks Israel does not exist.
  • Some quotable quotes:
    • "A Korean woman rabbi was not invited to attend the American Woman's March because she is viewed as a man."
    • A reason for Israel and Jews to participate in forums where we may not be in total agreement  is because:  "If you are not at the table you are on the menu"

SUSAN FRIEDEN
I really enjoyed  the conference . I would recommend this to anybody who wants to learn what is happening in the US and globally regarding Israel and antisemitism . It is hard to pick just one thing to write about- I learned so much! ( it could be that I live under a rock). I did walk away with a renewed feeling that it is up to all of us to continue to work together to combat antisemitism as well as other racial biases.

I really enjoyed  Ambassador Nicholos Burns, Professor at Harvard Kennedy School  who discussed our transatlantic relationships.,though it was quite depressing  as he confirmed my fears of weakened relationships with our allies .In addition I have now become a committed fan of Rep. Hakeem Jeffries and wish he was in my congressional  district!


BETH LEVICK
As an AJC staff member and member of TBE I felt like I was wearing three hats at Global Forum - third being that of a participant. I enjoyed seeing the conference through these three lenses - hearing people’s reactions to speakers they agreed with and those they didn’t, learning even more about the current state - good and bad - of the world, and meeting new people from all over the world, including TBE members. One highlight for me was listening to Bernice King, MLK’s daughter, during our Community of Conscience event. The weather kept us from gathering at the Lincoln memorial - the intended venue. However, with the image of the memorial behind her Dr King spoke passionately and echoed the words of her father. She stated “Love is the only answer to mankind’s problems.”  I can only imagine how much more powerful it would have been if we were at the memorial.


NORMAN STONE

In a world where the seeds of hatred, bigotry and antisemitism have taken root and sprouted across the world, AJC has proved to be a worthy champion in a never-ending struggle against evil. The speakers at their annual convention presented convincing arguments and ways of combating the poisonous effects of BDS, physical assaults on Jews, bigotry and  the hatred that has increased in recent years. There were many highlights but a few in particular resonated with me. David Harris, CEO, was articulate in explaining AJC’s role and its accomplishments. Fighting for the right of Israel to exist by forming relationships with world leaders, speaking to congressional representatives and senators about AJC’s agenda and attaining more visibility through its volunteers. One of the most important activities is our programs on college campuses. Many of them are hotbeds of antisemitism and the need to counteract their misinformation is of paramount importance.

Individually, as Jews, we support Israel, but when we join together with with other like-minded organizations our voices are heard and acted upon.

TBE Bar/Bat Mitzvah Commentary: Lexi Handel on Bechokotai


Shabbat Shalom
Those of you who know me know that while I’m so glad that so many of you are here, there’s one member of my household in particular who is unfortunately not here today.
I’m speaking of course about Oreo, my four-year-old dog. 
When I first got Oreo at DAWS-Danbury Animal Welfare Society- I knew right away I was going to take her home right away. She was licking me and everything around us, and she was so loveable. (show picture of Oreo)
My love for Oreo has helped me to care for all animals and to understand how dependent they are on us.
That’s why I was so concerned when I saw an article a few weeks ago, where scientists are warning that a million species of plants and animals are at risk of extinction. Robert Watson, who chaired the study, said, “If we want to leave a world for our children and grandchildren that has not been destroyed by human activity, we need to act now.”
My portion of bechukotai explains that the actions of people have consequences on the whole world. It gives a number of horrible examples of consequences if people disobey the commandments. In one of them, it is that wild beasts will wipe out our cattle. It is hinting that the destruction of species is both a horrible thing and a consequence of human activity.
The portion also promises that if we obey the commandments, rain will come in proper amounts to water the land. On the surface it seems strange that following the mitzvot will make it rain.  But in fact what this is saying is that if we act responsibly, we can protect the earth, and if we don’t – then the consequence is not just for us, but for the whole world.  And the world includes animals and plants.  
The curses get really bad, but the worst thing about it is not how bad things get, but that people lose hope. They don’t realize that things can be turned around.
I believe things can be turned around. Here’s what I am doing.
For my mitzvah project, I am donating to the dog shelter, DAWS, where I got Oreo. I have collected lots of dog food, leashes, toys, and other dog supplies.
If you would like to donate after today, you can go onto the DAWS website  http://www.daws.org/.
As I become a bat mitzvah today, I know that it is very important not to lose hope, despite the many bad things happening in the world. And in its own way, I think the Torah is trying to teach us that.